10 ways women can spot a player

Spotting a player can be hard. Many men know how to hide their motives when it comes to dating and relationships.



Even though some ladies swear that they can spot a player from afar, the truth is that a player can be so good that you can’t even guess who he truly is.

A player has had years to perfect his skills on fooling women and telling women what they want to head and giving it to them in such small doses that they keep coming back for more.

A player is smart, handsome, and charismatic. He knows exactly what to say.  And many women fall prey to his womanizing tongue.

Ladies, no woman loves getting played but you shouldn’t be ignorant of the many tactics of a player as you go through the dating pool.

Take note of these 10 signs to determine if it was love at first sight or if your recent catch is a player who just wants to add you to his harem of casual sex participants.

He cancels your first date

If you hear excuses like he is suddenly sick, or a relative came in from out of town at the last minute, he’s a player. If he’s really that into you, he won’t break your very important first date.

He comes on strong to you

He immediately wants to see you again soon because it’s love at first sight. He starts texting you immediately. He doesn’t want you to slip away, no matter how much you resist.

He asks you out for weeknight dates only

After a few dates, it’s only appropriate to be on his calendar during a weekend evening. But if you are only meeting him on weekdays, he might be playing you and other ladies at the same time or he may be married.

He doesn’t introduce you to his friends or family

You are not his number one girl if you don’t meet his friends and family months after dating and sex. If he keeps you breaking his promises of taking you to family events, he is a player. He just wants to continue having sex.

He calls you last minute for dates

If your unreliable man calls you for a date, don’t get excited and change your plans with your girlfriends to accommodate him. He may be asking several women out at the same time. He needs to plan your date days in advance if he wants to see you.

He consistently cancels dates at the last minute

If he keeps cancelling your dates on the D day, it’s a red flag. Don’t put up with it if you don’t want to end up with a player who doesn’t care about you. You deserve more than a man who keeps toying with your feelings.

He introduces you as his friend

If you are having sex with a guy who doesn’t call you his girlfriend or partner, or a pet name in public, you are just a friend with benefits. Don’t get carried away with his many confusing gifts. You need a man who wants to call you his girl without hiding.

He disappears for days at a time

If your guy is missing in action, especially on weekends, and reappears with no explanation as if nothing happened, watch it. He’s a player. He’s a professional player and you shouldn’t be fooled by his sweet words.

He’s vague, distant and mysterious

While it can be sexy to have a little mystery in your relationship, if he’s consistently vague about his whereabouts, he’s hiding something. If his disappearing acts stories are inconsistent, you are being played.

He disappears as soon as things go well

If the relationship you think you are building is moving along nicely and out of nowhere, he puts on the brakes on it, and you are left scratching your head trying to figure out why, you just got played. You are left wondering what you did wrong. It’s not you, he’s a player.

His words do not match his actions

He makes promises he does not keep. He talks about the future, even in the short term, but never follows through. If you find yourself standing on shaky ground, never sure about arrangements with him, he’s playing you.

If you find yourself making excuses for this guy, compromising, feeling insecure, especially around other girls, doubting the things he says, and worrying about what he will do when you go home, something is up.

If your new guy fits into several of these categories, he’s likely to be a serial dater and a player. Move on with your life. You don’t need such unending drama in your life.

Find a man who is excited about you and is proud to introduce you to friends family.




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