10 ways to know you are dating a real man

Dating a real man is every woman’s dream.

Dating a real man brings peace and joy. You need to know how a real man behaves and how a bad man behaves.

There are no reasons to keep making excuses for your man’s bad behaviour. You will only waste your time and hurt yourself in the process too.

Below are some ways to know if you are dating a real man or not.


He wants you to be the best

A real man will make you want to be the best version of yourself without changing who you really you are just to fit into his fantasy about who you should be. A real man empowers his woman. He will strive for greatness and therefore inspire you to strive for it as well.

He’s never intimidated by your motivation

A man who set goals for himself will want to be with a woman who has goals for her own life too. He will never feel intimidated or threatened by a woman who goes after what she wants. He will want to be part of a power couple, rather than a dictatorship. Ladies, be mindful of dating anyone who tries to keep you from pursuing your dreams.

He values more than just your looks

Is every compliment from him about a different body part? It doesn’t matter how creative he can be, if a guy’s sole focus is on how you look, or talking dirty, see it as a red flag. Dating him is a disaster.

A real man will value your personality, your kindness, your intelligence and who you are as a person. The things he makes you feel good about will be things that you control, not just results of getting lucky getting down with you.

He gives you answers when the need arises

No matter how awkward or uncomfortable a situation is, a real man will approach it with tact and also approach you with respect. The mark of a real man rests on how he handles conflict, criticism, and non-ideal situations.

A real man will not dance around answers of make excuses when he needs to clear the air for you. If there’s something you need to talk about, he will talk about it.

He’s direct with you all the time

There will be no mind games, manipulations, or lies in your relationship if you are dealing with a real man. A real man will be direct, to the point and honest with you, with kindness too. Dating a real man is cool.

He trusts you

As long as you haven’t betrayed his trust, a real man will not be paranoid, or snoop around invading your privacy to make sure you are not doing anything bad. He will have confidence in your relationship.

A boy will project his own insecurities onto you, and like termites, eat away at the foundation of what you have built as a woman.

He has other interests aside you

Ladies, don’t take this the wrong way. You should of course be a priority in your man’s life but he needs to have a life as well. Interests, friends, hobbies and personal aspirations are his right too. If a man works his entire life around you, it’s another red flag. Your relationship should be a great part of your life, but not encompass your whole life.

He’s cool, calm and collected

Real men understand that part of what comes with dating is dealing with your woman being admired by other men. If you are out together and someone makes a pass at you, instead of your man letting his animal instincts prevail and beating his chest like an angry Gorilla to scare off competition, a confident man will calmly make his position known to the other party. He will sternly but calmly make him understand you are his alone.

He shows you respect

Nothing signifies an empty shell of a man more than someone who disrespects women. A real man will treat you with respect that you deserve and never force you to do anything you are not comfortable with. He will never mistreat you too no matter how angry he gets. Ladies, be honest with yourselves and walk away from any situation that is dangerous to you, physically and emotionally.

He puts in effort into your relationship

A real man will do what it takes to make you happy both inside and outside your bedroom. Your happiness is his reward. If you have a man in your life who behaves in the aforementioned manner, make sure he knows he is appreciated, but if not, run for your dear life. You were created to fulfil a purpose, live a purposeful life with a real man and not a baby.


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