5 Women in their 60s say sex gets better with age
As a young lady in her 30s, if you are not already depressed by how little action you have been getting lately in bed, then you probably won’t feel any better learning that women in their 60s and 70s are still sexually active.
Although society views older people who are sexually active as dirty, it doesn’t change the fact that these horny women have sex at least twice a month according to a new study. Experts say such derogatory labels reflect a deep level of discomfort in our youth-oriented culture with the idea that seniors are sexually active.
Sex is identified with reproduction, youthful attractiveness, and power and most young and even middle-aged people do not want to confront the inevitability of growing old. So, sexual intimacy among older women is a subject that people don’t talk about so much. The silence allows misconceptions to flourish, including the widespread assumption that seniors lose interest in sex or should be asexual at a certain age.
Social messages telling women that sex is not for them cause women to distance themselves from their desire throughout their lives. As they get older, the fact that they no longer have the hormones that supported their earlier sex drive, combined with the negative messages they may still have in their minds around sex, means some of them often give up on sex altogether.
But when it comes to the itch, there is no age limit on sexuality and sexual activity. While the frequency or ability to perform sexually will generally decline modestly as they experience the normal physiological changes that accompany aging, many women between the ages of 50 and 70 are still enthusiastic about sex and intimacy.
Esther: I still enjoy sex at 63, there’s no shame in that
Having sex now is very pleasurable. It reminds me that I still have young, vibrant energy inside and helps you glow from the inside out. As I got older, with all the changes in my body, I avoided sex at a point because I didn’t feel beautiful and desirable anymore, but sex brought me back in touch with my feeling of internal beauty.
When you feel beautiful on the inside you glow on the outside and this is a feeling that does not have to change even as your body is changing. I still enjoy sex at 63, there’s no shame in that.
Clara: At 61, sex is different but not diminished
I was 61 two months ago. I enjoy sex now like never before. At this point, I appreciate life more because of the many challenges I have faced and conquered in my lifetime. One advantage of growing older is that personal relationships can take on increased importance as children and careers take a backseat.
Older women can devote more time and energy to improving their love lives. And while some may be forced to give up strenuous work, sex is a physical pleasure many older women readily enjoy. I made it a point of duty to have sex as much as I can now. I have sexual intercourse once in two weeks.
Cordelia: Sex gets better with age
As for making love, it just gets better with age. I am 57. My husband and I met at the hospital when he came to visit his late wife who was battling cancer. We gradually became close friends, and after his wife’s death, we became intimate.
When Gabriel proposed, I accepted with pleasure having been a widow for 6 years. Now, we feel like young lovers or newlyweds. I feel like I can make love better now that I have a whole lifetime of experience. Our love life is very warm and sex, very satisfying.
Agnes: Sex means intimacy to me now
At 60, the physical changes that occur with age have given me a chance to revitalize my sex life by focusing more on intimacy and closeness instead of sex alone. Often, less preoccupied with performance, I can express my affection and closeness in other ways, such as cuddling, kissing, and stroking my husband of 20 years.
Sex is being warm and caring; sex isn’t just sex. It feels good to lay next to a naked man’s body. As I grew older, I don’t feel the compulsion to have sex as much as I did when I was younger. There’s a great beauty in the freedom from necessity. At this time, sex becomes more of a matter of choice. It is more interesting and intriguing for my husband and I although he may not be as agile and fast as he used to be. We take our time to enjoy each other’s company, ravish each other’s body and sex becomes fun.
Yetunde: My sex life has been rekindled
It is not easy to have a man notice you when you are widow for many years. I lost my husband when I was 48, I am 62 now and even though I crave sex and intimacy, men in my age bracket love to go for younger women to prove their agility.
A lively man with something to offer can find a woman 10 or 20 years below his own age, which leaves women in my age bracket generally out of the business. I missed male companionship for a long time before I met a man 10 years my junior who seems drawn to me.
Even though most people may judge me for my decision to remain sexually active at my age, there’s nothing they can do about my choice. I know what I am feeling and I also know what to do to satisfy my sexual urge. I want to have sex and intimacy in my life. At this point, I don’t have urges as strong as when I was younger, I just want to feel like a woman again after a long time. My sex drive has diminished, but since I met this man that was attracted to me and equally interested me, it was rekindled.