Ways to achieve your ‘happily ever after’
Use please, thank you and sorry often
If you want happily ever after, don’t forget these three simple phrases. Doing this will go a long way in dousing tensions and strengthening your respect for each other
Just enjoy sex
Sexual intimacy is very important in marriages. Create moments to savour each other’s bodies without a care in the world.
Don’t bear grudges
Destroy bad memories. Don’t hang on to pains, disappointments or hurts. Remembering offences, bringing them during discussions and holding on to grudges sabotage your desire for happily ever after.
Don’t be overly confident
Overconfidence can lead to complacency, which is not good for any relationship. Most couples wrongly think that if there is no perceived risk of failure, no work is put into maintaining their relationship until it’s suddenly faltering.
Don’t let yourself gloss over the little things. Don’t forget to make an effort to keep your romance alive.
Don’t find yourself in a situation where you realize that you could have done more, when it’s already too late.
Remind yourself about your choices
Many people stay in troubled marriages because they believe they have no other choice. They think that they are stuck, and they blame this sensation of being stuck on their spouse.
But if you are stuck, it’s your fault and not your spouse’s. That fact is, you are not stuck; you have choices. Three of them: Do nothing and remain miserable; face your fears and try to save your marriage; or ask for a divorce.
Choose to either be married or not. Make a choice. And wake up every morning and make that choice again.
The surest path to happiness is knowing that you are not a helpless damsel in distress, or a stranded prince charming but rather a woman or man who can make their own decisions. You have the choice to live happily ever after.