Ways to achieve your ‘happily ever after’

Do you wonder how to achieve your happily ever after? Do you look at your relationship and silently wish that what you are feeling lasts forever?
You are not alone. People fall in love. They promise to be with each other for life and then, they get married.
The marriage ceremony is characterized by eyes laden with love and lips dripping of promises and vows. Then happily ever after is in the works. But life doesn’t always go as planned and love sometimes doesn’t last forever.
Marriage is about marrying the right person. It’s about working to keep your fairy tale love alive through life’s many challenges. Happily ever after requires constant work in progress.
For your happily ever after, don’t forget these tips.
Nurture yourself
You can’t give what you don’t have. Be a good version of yourself before you can fully love your spouse.


Spend time alone with yourself.
Prioritize and set moments aside for some alone time. You can engage in activities that keep you relaxed and whole.
Define your problems
Take time to analyze your relationship and figure out what is working and where you are having problems. Work on your relationship issues bit by bit.
Make financial plans together.
Money problems are common among couples as they worry and argue about it all the time.
Make active plans about how you and your spouse will make, manage and spend money together. You both have to be part of the decisions. Talk about accounts and which ones will work best for your happily ever after.

Use please, thank you and sorry often

If you want happily ever after, don’t forget these three simple phrases. Doing this will go a long way in dousing tensions and strengthening your respect for each other

Just enjoy sex

Sexual intimacy is very important in marriages. Create moments to savour each other’s bodies without a care in the world.

Don’t bear grudges

Destroy bad memories. Don’t hang on to pains, disappointments or hurts. Remembering offences, bringing them during discussions and holding on to grudges sabotage your desire for happily ever after.





Don’t be overly confident

Overconfidence can lead to complacency, which is not good for any relationship. Most couples wrongly think that if there is no perceived risk of failure, no work is put into maintaining their relationship until it’s suddenly faltering.


Don’t let yourself gloss over the little things. Don’t forget to make an effort to keep your romance alive.


Don’t find yourself in a situation where you realize that you could have done more, when it’s already too late.


Remind yourself about your choices

Many people stay in troubled marriages because they believe they have no other choice. They think that they are stuck, and they blame this sensation of being stuck on their spouse.

But if you are stuck, it’s your fault and not your spouse’s. That fact is, you are not stuck; you have choices. Three of them: Do nothing and remain miserable; face your fears and try to save your marriage; or ask for a divorce.

Choose to either be married or not. Make a choice. And wake up every morning and make that choice again.

The surest path to happiness is knowing that you are not a helpless damsel in distress, or a stranded prince charming but rather a woman or man who can make their own decisions. You have the choice to live happily ever after.


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