10 ways women can improve their self esteem

Building a positive self esteem is important for women of all ages. It is when you don’t have a healthy self esteem that you can fall for anything, even things that are not good for you as a woman.

As a woman, you know how hard it is to live the life you truly want to live because of the way society indirectly tells you to live.

From childhood, you are expected to behave in a certain way, talk in a certain way and even act in certain societal acceptable ways.

Going against the norm will attract negative labels from not only people you love but from outsiders as well. And if you are not careful, you will begin to doubt yourself, which could in turn affect your self esteem as a woman.

A high opinion about yourself and who you are and what you do and basically a love for yourself is also one of the things that people often miss or have too little of in today’s society. But you don’t have to follow the crowd. Being a successful woman means standing out from the crowd.

But fret no more. You are the only one who matters when it comes to taking decisions that are best for your life. So, do what is best for you at all times. You control your happiness, don’t allow other people dull your spirit or reduce your self worth to nothing because you don’t act like them.

These ten steps will help you improve your self esteem as a woman, enjoy.

1. Stop to your inner critic

A good place to start with raising your self-esteem is by learning how to handle and to replace the voice of your own inner critic.

In the long run, find better ways to motivate yourself than listening to your inner critic.

2. Develop healthier motivation habits

To motivate yourself to take action and raise your self-esteem, it is certainly helps to have healthy motivation habits.

Remind yourself of the benefits. A simple but powerful way to motivate yourself and to keep that motivation up daily is to write down the deeply felt benefits you will get from following this new path or reaching a goal.


3. Go for self-appreciation break

This is a very simple and fun habit. And if you spend five minutes on it every day for a month then it can make huge difference.

Take a healthy walk or go to the gym after work. Listen to your favourite music. Help out a struggling friend or colleague.

These short breaks do not only build self-esteem in the long run but can also turn a negative mood around and reload you with a lot of positive energy again.

4. Do the right thing

When you do what you deep down think is the right thing to do then you raise and strengthen your self-esteem.

It might be a small thing like getting up from the couch and going to the gym. It could be to be understanding instead of judgmental in a situation. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and focus on the opportunities and gratitude for what you actually have.

5. Replace the need for perfection

When you aim for perfection then that usually winds up in a project or a task never being finished. So simply go for good enough instead. Don’t use it as an excuse to slack off. But simply realize that there is something called good enough and when you are there then you are finished.

6. Handle your mistakes and failures positively

If you go outside of your comfort zone, if you try to accomplish anything that is truly meaningful then you will stumble and fall along the way.

And that is okay. It is normal. It is what people that did something that truly mattered have done throughout all ages. Even if we don’t always hear about it as much as we hear about their successes.

When next you stumble, Be your own best friend. Instead of beating yourself up, ask yourself: How would my friend/parent support me and help me in this situation? Then do things and talk to yourself like he or she would. It keeps you from falling into a pit of despair and helps you to be more constructive after the first initial pain of a mistake or failure starts to dissipate.

7. Be kind towards other people

When you are kinder towards others you tend to treat and think of yourself in a kinder way too. And the way you treat other people is how they tend to treat you in the long run. So focus on being kind in your daily life.

8. Try something new

When you try something new, when you challenge yourself in a small or bigger way and go outside of your comfort zone then your opinion of yourself goes up.

You may not have done whatever you did in a spectacular or great way but you at least tried instead of sitting on your hands and doing nothing.

And that is something to appreciate about yourself and it can help you come alive as you get out of a rut. So go outside of your comfort zone regularly. Don’t expect anything, just tell yourself that you will try something out.

9. Stop falling into the comparison trap

When you compare your life, yourself and what you have to other people’s lives and what they have then you have destructive habit on your hands.

Because you can never win. There is always someone who has more or is better than you at something in the world. There are always people ahead of you. So replace that habit with something better.

Look at how far you have come so far instead. Compare yourself to yourself. Focus on you. On your results. And on how you can and how you have improved your results. This will both motivate you and raise your self-esteem.

10. Spend more time with supportive people and less time with destructive people

Make changes in the input you get. Choose to spend less time with people who are nervous perfectionists, unkind or unsupportive of your dreams or goals.

And spend more time with positive, uplifting people who have more human and kinder standards and ways of thinking about things.

Spend time reading books, blogs, websites and listening to podcasts that help you and that make you feel good about yourself.



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2 Responses

  1. juliet says:

    Quite interesting

  2. Grace Austina Okpo says:

    Sensibly written

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