Memo to Nigerian husbands

Dear husbands,

I beseech you in the name of everything you hold dear, please take good care of your wives.

Your wife is your mirror, reflection, representative and ambassador.

If you are rich, the way to know is from the classy appearance of your wives.

If you are going to make Heaven, your wife will know, If she doesn’t know, then, you are going nowhere.

When I see how stressed, distressed, worn out and ungamesome some wives are, I feel like weeping for them and scolding their guilty husbands.

It is not a virtue to grow your woman into a multi-purpose maid in the name of high quality wife material virtuous woman in the Hebrew fashion.

It is not sexy to have a wife looking like she just won an audition for domestic suffering and emotional travesty.

Why let your Nkechi grow muscles from daily pounding? Why make her life hard just because she married you?

When you see some glowing, happy, well-to-do, independent and happy single ladies or single mothers of your wife’s age looking like your wife’s daughter, you will realize how much damage your marriage has done to the physiological and psychological well-being of that once radiant woman you have deprived of sunshine by letting your unhelpfulness and insensitivity take a shine off her.

Deliberately make your wives happy and relaxed. Don’t leave the entire chores to your wives, they have offended no one.

Switch the roles sometimes, domestic duties can be tedious and boring. Split the work. Take over the kitchen sometimes.

Prepare ‘YOUR’ kids. Use your muscles to assist, not to fight and brag. Take off the workload on them to see the best in them.

It is a sin to make your wife appear older than you are.

Treat your wives like the Queens that they are.

Be considerate and compassionate.

Invest in their wardrobe.

Buy them good gifts.

Let them be themselves in spite of their marital status.

Living in fear wears out a startled mind.

Let your woman radiate and glow.

Groom your bride – that is your entire job description.

May God bless you as you comply.

Written by Tosin Ayo


I am a writer, a journalist and phenomenal woman. I don't conform to societal stereotypes. I am passionate about women and the issues that plague womanhood in this part of the world. Engage and be awakened.

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