Loving ways to be a great dad
There are many ways to be a loving dad. As a father, have you wondered how to be a great dad to your son and daughter? Do you look at your baby and ask if you could truly be a great dad to your newborn?
You are not alone. Many Nigerian fathers are rising up to the task of learning how to be great husbands and fathers at this time. This is because children need stable and loving homes where they can learn values and life skills. So when the family is full of love, stability, peace and unity, children fare better.
These ten points are some loving ways men can be great dads to their children.
Love all your children unconditionally
Make sure that your children know you love them no matter what. Don’t confuse this with permissiveness. Unconditional love does nothing to encourage the wrong kind of behaviour. In fact, children who are secure in their father’s love tend to act out less, not more.
Love their children’s mother
Love your wife without reservation – you can’t do much more for your kids than that. Men should not let ego destroy the future of their children by disrespecting the mother of their children. These children are watching and learning too. Never return disgrace with disgrace.
Your presence matters
Quality time is all well and good but it’s not the same as quantity time. Sometimes, fathers make the mistake of trying to bribe their children with gifts instead of pending quality time with them. As a loving father, make the time. Everyone has the same 24 hours available. Make yours count when it comes to your children.
Provide for your children
As best you can, provide the needs of your children. Material provision can be tough when jobs are lost and tough times hit. However, you can always provide a stable home with love and affection and with the little money that comes in.
Don’t forget discipline
Children appreciate an even hand, balance, accountability, and love-drenched discipline. It’s called consistency and, without clearly defined boundaries, it is very difficult to grow up.
Place value on education
Don’t just read to your children, read with them. Don’t just fuss about grades; get involved with their homework. Don’t just talk about learning, be a hands-on advocate. Let them know how much you value their education through your presence and actions.
Raise them to be independent
The simple goal of being a family and parenting children is to raise them well equipped to leave home and to establish good, successful and independent lives.
Teach them to love life
The best predictor of happiness in children is happiness in their parents. If parents learn how to love life and teach their children the same, they will be well prepared for satisfaction no matter what life brings their way.
Give more affection
A father’s loving touch sends a message to your child that words can’t always convey. A kiss on their forehead, a hug and pat on their heads for no reason goes a long way in showing them how much you love them.
Never abuse your children
As a father, don’t be verbally cruel to your child. Never call any of your child stupid, an idiot, or any name that make them think they are less than the special children they are. Make it your goal to give your children so much love and praise that it elevates their self esteem as they face the challenges in the world outside your home.