How Nigerians make long distance relationships work

In the past, many people believe that long distance relationships would never work. Your family members may discourage it. Some of your friends may also kick against the idea to protect them from heartbreak.

Long distance relationships are not easy. There are long distance relationship problems couples need to know and tackle. The distance makes things hard. Things could get complicated, and you could get sad and lonely at times. However, the extra distance can also make the smallest things mean so much more in a long distance relationship.

Maintaining a long distance relationship require commitment, trust and communication. Couples engage in long distance messages and rely on successful long distance relationship stories to make their own relationship work.

These men and women shared how they are keeping their love alive and strong in long distance relationships.

Nigerian woman chatting with her boyfriend

Chinyere: It hurts that I can’t see him daily

I have been in a long distance relationship for a year now. We were never the long talk couple, unless there’s something important to discuss. We talk like three times daily and that has been the normal routine. The communication is cool. It’s not like I see him every day when I was close to him, but that feeling that I can’t see him whenever I want to, now, is what hurts terribly. But we love each other and that’s the most important thing.

Zara: We give each other space

We enjoy commitment on both sides. Understanding, respect, communication, kindness with words, sexual compatibility and boldness to express it over phone or through Skype remain our relationship secrets. Most importantly, couples in long distance relationships have to trust each other.

It has been one year now we started dating and it has really amazing. We talk daily. He lives in Dallas and I live in Nigeria. We started as friends first which made it easier. There are no limits to what we talk about. He is allowed to go out to clubs or wherever he wants and I am allowed to go out too.

Whenever we have a misunderstanding, we talk about it next day, trash out the issue and laugh over it all. Trust is the key. He has his space and time and I have mine as well.

Mike: Communication and trust is key to a successful distance relationship

I somehow like long distance relationships. It gives me a good amount of freedom. I don’t like clingy women. I love being missed and missing my partner a little. I’m in one, and we see each other as often as we get the chance. Communication and trust is key to a successful distance relationship for me

Ken: We build our relationships on phone calls and occasional visits

My girlfriend lives in Bayelsa and I am in Asaba. We were both in Port Harcourt for School. Then at different times from 2013 till date, we started staying apart. We have survived the many challenges in our relationships. We fight and very hard too but we can’t do without each other. We are surviving. We will survive. We build our relationships on phone calls and occasional visits.

Onyinye: I can’t imagine dating someone in the same state with me.
Long distance relationship works better for me. I can’t imagine dating someone in the same state with me. My boyfriend and I stay in different states but visit each other at least twice every month.
Constant communication, understanding and trust are what matters. I cope just fine. I miss him a lot sometimes but we try not to leave any gap.

Sam: I like it when my partner misses me so much

I have been in a long distant relationship for five months now and still counting. Long distance relationship works perfectly for me. I like freedom. I like it when my partner misses me so much. Communication, understanding and trust are keys to successful long distance relationship.

Linus: We are having the fun of our lives

I will say long distance relationship is fun. We were in different countries and it was great. You just need to be constantly communicating. You should be understanding as well as trustworthy. I cheated sometimes but that doesn’t stop me from loving my girl. I won’t tell her that, she will never forgive me. We are having the fun of our lives loving each other from different countries.

Eva: I don’t expect him to be faithful and he knows he doesn’t expect the same from me

I have been in a long distance relationship for three years now. I love my space, no monitoring spirit. But communication and trust is the key. There are times we stay up eight months without even seeing each other.  He’s currently in the east while I’m in the north. It has been four months since we saw each other but we Skype, chat and engage in phone sex. I don’t expect him to be faithful and he knows he doesn’t expect the same from me but we are cool with our arrangement.

Kate

I am a woman who is passionate about empowering other women to live their best lives and be free from unhealthy societal expectations. I'm a journalist and a columnist with a reputable media house. I educate, inspire and encourage women to embrace their uniqueness fully. I am a mother to an intelligent girl. I love perfumes.

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