10 warning signs he’s dating you for money

That man may be dating you for your money. It’s now official, the age of the female gold digging is over. These days, it’s men who are dating women for their money. Many of these men skilfully warm their way into a woman’s heart, paying lip service to love and latching onto a woman’s money like ants latch to sugar.

As a woman who is dating a man, would you consider your man to be dedicated, committed and trustworthy?  Is it possible that your man could only be with you for financial reasons? Have you thought about his intentions towards you in the long run?

There are many signs of a gold digging man that you shouldn’t ignore. These 10 signs he’s using you for money cannot be ignored. Pay attention, lady!


Couple counting money

He always forgets his wallet whenever you both go out

As your relationship progresses, if you recognize that your man always wants you to pay the bill or he continually uses the excuse that he forgot his wallet, then he is with you for the money. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

He asks you for money all the time

Asking for a loan is a sign that he may see you as a cash machine rather than a real love interest. If you suspect this is the case, talk to him about his financial situation. You need to know how you would be sharing expenses and his values towards spending and savings.

He knows your ATM Pin but struggles with your phone number

In many relationships, as trust builds, couples divulge information regarding important things such as finance and life goals. But if you recognize that your man knows your ATM Pin number better than he knows your phone number, then it is not a good sign.  A prospective spouse should be more interested in learning more about you and building a strong relationship with a solid foundation than overly frequent extractions from your account.

He’s only available when he needs money from you

Do you constantly find that he isn’t available unless he needs something from you? This is definitely a sign he is using you. After all, every woman wants a guy that is going to be available when she needs him emotionally, physically and not just when he needs money from her.

Your conversations always ends with money

Positive and empowering communication is absolutely essential for the sustenance of a fruitful and healthy relationship.  This type of communication should cover a full gamut of topics and involve active listening.  The conversation should not be strictly and consistently confined to money. But if all you discuss with your man is how much money you can give him, then he is with you for the money.

He’s only happy on paydays

Relationships are built upon trust, love, faith and positive communication and emotions. But if you recognize that your man continually shows a lack of emotion and detached behaviour, except on your paydays, he is probably not interested in you beyond your finances.

He always has financial troubles and they are never his fault

Life is full of ups and downs. A man can run into financial difficulty and as his woman, you can stand in for him until he finds his feet. But a man who always has financial troubles and lots of debts is bad news for a woman. If your man keeps borrowing money in your name, he is after your money.

Ladies, beware of the man who doesn’t accept responsibility for his lack of funds or poor financial decisions. Usually, he will blame his problems on other people. If you fall for that, the next empty bank account could be yours.

He’s financially dependent on you

Not only do you pay for everything you both enjoy, he is actually financially dependent on you. He expects you to pay all of the bills that you two have, no questions asked. He doesn’t even contribute to your monthly upkeep. This is a sign he is using you and you shouldn’t stand for it.

He never buys you anything

Do you constantly buy him things, but he has never, ever gotten you something back? Does he spend your money on himself without thinking about buying you anything at the same time? That’s a sign ladies, he loves your money and not you. Your partner should buy things no matter how small just to appreciate you once in a while.

Listen to your instincts

Above all else, listen to your instincts. If you are seeing a majority of these signs in your relationship, you might be dating a financial opportunist. But you should also note that not all monetarily impaired men are out for your cash.

If your man doesn’t have career ambitions but is just content to spend your money, that’s a red flag. Ladies, watch out for the guy who encourages you to enjoy your opulence and doesn’t support fiscal responsibility.


I am a woman who is passionate about empowering other women to live their best lives and be free from unhealthy societal expectations. I'm a journalist and a columnist with a reputable media house. I educate, inspire and encourage women to embrace their uniqueness fully. I am a mother to an intelligent girl. I love perfumes.

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