10 pains of staying in one-sided relationships
One-sided relationships are common. Do you feel loved or do you feel empty, alone and unloved? Do you constantly have to ask your partner if they feel the same way about you or do they treat you anyhow, without respect and care? Do you often wonder if you are in a one-sided relationship?
Men and women in one sided relationships keep wondering what they are doing wrong. They seek how to fix their one-sided relationships. They are the only ones making efforts, keeping the peace and avoiding conflicts just to keep the relationship going. But this is not ideal for anyone.
When it comes to relationships, it is best to face the truth of your situation sooner rather than later. Don’t wake up years later, only to regret the time wasted with the wrong person. The symptoms of one-sided relationships are easy to tell if one is attentive.
To avoid the pains of one-sided relationship, be honest with yourself as you run through the list below and pinpoint whether your partner, or even you, meet these characteristics.
You feel drained
Relationships require a give and take, sometimes you give, sometimes you take. But when you are the only one doing the giving, you will wind up feeling exhausted. And that’s not a reassuring place to be.
You are the only one who opens up
If your partner never lets you in regarding basic things like how their day went, or as big as their fears and dreams, it could be a sign that they don’t feel the same level of connection that you feel for them.
You are not part of your partner’s social relationships
They keep you away from important people. If they have friends or family members that they consider important, but keep you away from them, that’s a red flag. A loving partner will encourage you to meet these people, and spend time with them. They will rejoice at the thought of you befriending their friends. If this isn’t the case, and you are kept away, something is wrong.
You deal with their constant lack of commitment
Many people have had to make plans and commit to them. But when you are the only one who seems willing to make plans and stick to them, that’s a huge red flag. Maybe they don’t want to promise something they are not sure they would still be around for.
You feel stressed because of their reactions
If you are always worrying about how your partner is going to react to even the smallest stuff, then you are in a relationship with yourself. You don’t have to fear your partner. You need to be free with the one your heart has chosen and not feel stressed over things even those you can’t handle.
You keep making excuses for them
You lie for them when they miss important events that matter to you. If when they behave poorly, you end up justifying it saying they have had a bad day, you are dating yourself. When they insult your family, you cover up by saying business has not been going well and that’s why they lash out at you, you are alone.
You don’t feel like you are a priority
In a relationship, it’s nice to be reassured you matter to your partner. But in this relationship, you never quite know where you stand. You love them and place them on a high pedestal but you can’t say for sure where they place you. You are left guessing.
You are not worth listening to
They only listen to you when it’s something they are interested in, or when it benefits them in some way. But when it has to do with your dreams and hobbies, it is not an issue to be discussed. You are just dating yourself.
You are the only one willing to work through problems
Your partner would rather bury the issue, let it slide and not address it. Even though a great relationship requires work, if you are the only one making efforts for your relationship to work, you are in a one-sided partnership.
You simply don’t feel happy anymore
Are you happy with yourself in your relationship? Do you have self-love? Without that, there’s no way to love the other person. Now, if you do have self-love, but aren’t happy, and it’s due to your relationship, then you need to leave.
Two people in love will communicate, actively try to make each other happy, and focus on growing together, not apart. If you know that you are in a dead relationship, you need to move on with your life. You deserve to be happy and you deserve to be with someone willing to match your efforts when it comes to working at your relationship.