5 signs of troubled marriage couples shouldn’t ignore
If you and your spouse don’t actively emotionally connect but you live together, doing your own thing, that’s an indication there’s disconnection. It shows that you are together but not really with each other. When you live in the same house but relate like strangers and hardly connect with each other emotionally, then you are in a loveless marriage.
If you and your spouse are not having meaningful conversations anymore even though you sleep on the same bed, one or both of you are unhappy. When one of you gets promoted at work or accomplish anything and your partner isn’t the first person you are sharing it with, your marriage is having serious problems.
If you fantasize about a life without your spouse, you are unhappy in your marriage. If you often imagine a happy future without your partner, that’s a major sign that things aren’t right. This is a part of the emotional detachment process, during which you may try to convince yourself that you don’t care anymore so that the eventual separation feels less painful.
If you have given up fighting for your marriage, it’s a sign that you have given up. If there’s a fight and you both don’t talk about what happened or refuse to listen to each other’s perspective, that’s not good. It’s up to you to decide whether you want to turn toward your spouse and give your marriage one last go, or whether you have exhausted your ability to keep fighting for your relationship.
Many women will tell you that it hurts when their husbands don’t listen to them. When you sit down to talk with your spouse about what’s working and what isn’t working and they are not listening, you will be unhappy. When nothing changes, no matter how vocal you are about your feelings, there’s a problem. Couples can resolve conflicts by listening and understanding one another. Poor communication, dashed expectations and unhealed resentments hurt even the best marriages.
After getting home from a long day of work, do you and your spouse immediately go your separate ways? Do you tend to drift apart and do your own thing even if your spouse is around? If you would rather be alone than with your spouse, it probably doesn’t seem like there’s much of a point in being in that marriage in the first place. Getting a little time apart is one thing, but you shouldn’t choose to be apart.