Ladies, don’t settle for irresponsible men just to get married

Ladies, you shouldn’t be ashamed of refusing to settle for a man below your standards.

Don’t let anyone tell you that the reason you are still single is because you have refused to put up with irresponsible men and their annoying behaviour.

It is better to marry late than to marry wrong. You shouldn’t allow anyone stampede you into a bad relationship. At the end of the day, they won’t be the ones suffering in the marriage, you are.

So, take your time. Ask the right questions. Do serious background checks. Find out what your man does for a living. Know the kind of friends he keeps. Watch his behaviour when he’s angry.

Don’t settle for irresponsible men

Don’t allow these women in miserable marriages tell you that all men are the same, all men cheat, all men beat their wives and all men are useless. It’s a big lie. They are telling you their reality.

Marriage is not a joke. It is not a competition you have to win. It’s a journey of two people who are ready to love, respect, and commit to each other for life. It’s two people coming together to build their lives, so take your time.

You shouldn’t settle for a weak man who can’t stand to see you successful just to please society. Some men make it their life goal to destroy the dreams of the women they are married to. I am sure you don’t want that for yourself.

You shouldn’t settle for half a man because you feel time is no longer on your side when you can have a real, complete, loving and responsible man. So, be alert and don’t settle for any kind of man just to answer a Mrs.

Don’t settle for an abusive man. Don’t settle for a disrespectful man. Don’t settle for a man who sees you as his inferior. Don’t settle for a man who thinks he’s doing you a favour by marrying you. Don’t settle for a control freak who wants you to stop living and relating with your friends because he wants to marry you.

Getting married to the wrong man can destroy your life and set you back. Women who are married to bad husbands have sad tales to tell. You don’t want to live the kind of live they are living. It’s like being in hell. That’s not how a marriage should be.

Every man isn’t qualified to love you, touch you, date you or marry you. Reserve your heart for the gentleman who truly loves you and wants a lifetime commitment with you not one who sees you as a project. Don’t settle for a jerk and start crying later.


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1 Response

  1. Claire says:

    A beautiful write up sis kate!

    One of the reasons women fall prey for irresponsible men is because they feel time is no longer on their side, pressure and desperation which is a trap for them!
    They just see marriage as an achievement therefore anything goes for them!

    I’ll rather remain single than to marry an irresponsible man…. It’s not worth the stress!
    It’s a nightmare being in a marriage to endure bullshit instead of enjoying that beautiful institution!

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