What parents of sexually molested children should do
As l sat down this morning in the midst of the parents whose children have been violated and were standing by this very young survivors my heart sank for them.
One of the worst trauma a parent can experience is to find out that your innocent child has been sexually violated, worst still if you now know the monster who did this despicable act to your precious jewel.
The heart break can almost kill a person. Some are even battling high blood pressure because of this.
As we prepare for church tomorrow l want to celebrate every parent who is standing by their children despite the fact that some parents will pretend or enable the abuser we still have parents with conscience and zero tolerance for this kind of despicable act.
God bless you for standing strong with your child in spite of what the society says. Thank you for standing to fight and get justice for your precious child.
This mean so much because one of the worst feeling after the abuse is when your parents decide not to believe or fight for you as a child. Survivors truly appreciate parental support and care at this crucial time.
Dear parents, let this children know you love them, let them know what happened is not their fault, let them know you are with them in this journey to wellness.
Let them know you will do everything to keep them safe. If the child is in danger quickly get in touch with Mirable centre inside Lasuth hospital.
Dear parents of survivor please don’t feel guilty or blame yourself, it’s not your fault, even if you made a mistake try and forgive yourself.
The shame belongs to the abuser not you. Our society should stop shaming and blaming parents of survivors, we have to stop stigmatizing parents of survivors because nobody wishes their child to go through incest, sexual abuse or rape.
Show love and not condemnation. It is not easy on the parents so please don’t make it any harder for them. If you don’t know what to say please SHUT UP instead of talking.
As we go to church tomorrow show love to everyone you meet, you never can tell what anyone is going through. Don’t judge anyone until you have walked their part in life.
#awareness #support #survivor2018
Written by Anthonia Alasa-Ojenagbon