While ladies may be doing everything in their power to be attract men, it may surprise them to learn that some of their actions and behavior actually have the opposite effect. Some ladies may not even realize that they are acting in ways that drive men away when all they are really trying to do is draw them closer. There are some things ladies do that guys don’t find attractive and it is important ladies know these things.
10 guys recently told Feminine World what they find unattractive in women:
Douglas: Playing hard to get is not something I fancy
Many ladies think that playing hard to get and acting distant will help them attract guys, but they are making a mistake. For someone like me, playing games can make you look immature and give me the impression that you are not yet ready, willing or interested in getting to know me on a deeper and meaningful level. Playing hard to get is not the way to attract the man you need in your life.
Chuks: I don’t find party girls attractive
I stay away from party girls because these ladies have a tendency to act recklessly, make poor decisions possibly under the influence of drugs and alcohol, and put themselves and other people in potentially harmful situations. As a businessman, I am interested in women who are confident, outgoing, and who like to have fun, but I know where to draw the line. I can’t stand women who are always looking to party no matter the circumstances.
Nwachukwu: A damsel in distress puts me off
I don’t like dramatic women who need to be rescued all the time. I am not interested in drama and seeking my attention by playing the victim all the time will only make you appear desperate, immature, and over dramatic. Any lady who wants me for keeps should have a healthy self-esteem and learn effective problem-solving strategies that can help her to become more self-sufficient. If you want to be attract your very own Prince Charming, acting like a drama queen is the wrong approach.
Solomon: Hiding your sexuality pushes me away
It’s terrible that we have a culture that makes women feel dirty or ashamed of their sexuality. It’s even worse when abuse or violence is condoned because she was dressed, acting, or talking a certain way. As a result, many women shy away from embracing their inner bedroom goddess for fear of being negatively labeled. They pretend to be virgins and good girls because they don’t want to be judged. any woman who wants to attract me should be bold about sex. I expect her to make the first move and initiate sex when she’s horny. I like a woman who is comfortable in her own skin inside and outside bedroom.
Damian: A woman who loves extreme makeovers can’t attract me
If I like a girl, I am not going to tell her to suddenly undergo an extreme makeover to keep me for life. I knew who she was when we met, and I won’t want her to reinvent herself in an attempt to win me over. I value confident women. I find it unattractive if my woman is obsessed with her perceived imperfections. Talking about different cosmetic procedures, cycling different styles, and crash dieting in an attempt to lose weight can make her seem insecure, which is a real turn-off for me.
Patrick: Being a gossip turns me off
It might seem like fun to share the latest rumors, scandals, and stories involving the lives of your friends, family, and co-workers with me because I am your guy, but being a gossip turns me off. If you want to attract me, you should keep in mind that I am drawn to women who value themselves, and don’t put others down as a way to lift themselves up. So the next time you are dying to tell me all of your friend’s dirty laundry, you should choose to clean up your act instead.
Gbenga: You can’t attract me if you have no life as a woman
In relationships, I want some space to breathe from time to time. Wanting time apart doesn’t mean that I am avoiding my woman. It also doesn’t mean I want to leave her. I love feeling wanted but it can be exhausting when a woman is excessively needy. I find it unattractive if my woman demands to be by my side 24/7 and can’t find ways to occupy herself even when I am not around. I have told my girl to plan regular outings with her friends or colleagues, register in a gym to meet new people or watch Telemundo or E News. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean we should become inseparable.
Chidi: You put me off by bad-mouthing your ex
As a lady, you may think that bad-mouthing your ex around me is a good decision because I am your new guy, but this kind of negative behavior actually makes you look bad instead. While your intentions may be to show me how much you are over him and that I have nothing to worry about when it comes to living up to the men you have been with previously, constantly criticizing your ex isn’t attractive. You can’t attract me like that. This behaviour also tells me that I might be the next victim when we break up later.
Ayodele: Ladies who are needy are not attractive
Many women mistakenly interpret a man’s desire to feel needed by becoming overly needy, jealous, and desperate to spend every hour with him. If you are a woman who is clingy and emotionally dependent on me because you think it will bring me closer and make me stick around, know that you are actually just pushing me away. I want to know that I complement your life as opposed to being the center of your universe on which your entire happiness and sense of self-worth depend.
George: No woman who talks too much can attract me
I can’t stand women who talk too much. These ladies who don’t seem to be able to close their mouths don’t know how much they put guys off. These kinds of ladies won’t hesitate to set a guy up if they can’t get what they want from him. I stay away from chatterbox ladies like a plague. I don’t find them attractive.
