When a man leaves you for another woman, don’t start threatening to harm yourself especially if you have children. You cannot predict another human being’s behaviour even if you are married to them. If he abandons you and runs off with another woman, don’t fall apart. It is a hard thing to deal with but you should think about yourself and children first. You should focus on making life better for yourself and your children.
There’s a story making rounds about a mother of four threatening to kill herself because her husband bought an outdated car for his ugly, unintelligent mgbeke side chick. This woman, a beautiful woman is so heartbroken that she left a post on her social media saying that if she’s no more, people should reach out to her children because they are unfortunate to be born in an evil family.
I pity this woman. I do. But at the same time, if I was close to her, I would tell her not to kill herself for any man. No man is worth that ultimate sacrifice. Jesus has already done that, she doesn’t need to die for another human being again.
Does it hurt to be cheated on? Yes. Does it hurt to trust a man and he turns around to break that trust in a humiliating way? Yes. Does it hurt to love a man, believe in him, build life with him and he turns around to replace you? Yes.
It hurts to be cheated on by your spouse. It is even worse when he flaunts his affair in your face. The pain pierces through your soul when he abandons you and your children for his latest sex attraction. That is the height of it. It is the greatest disrespect a woman can suffer at the hands of a man.
That kind of pain takes time to heal. It is indescribable. It’s like having your heart cut into tiny little pieces by someone who should love, nurture and protect you. But you don’t have to let any man make you do something crazy. You don’t have to make your children suffer because of a man’s irresponsibility.
Forget the man. Focus on yourself and your children. You are now both father and mother to your children. You have to be strong and do what’s best for them. You have to do whatever it takes to raise them and be there for them. You are all your children have, why do you want to leave them too because their father left you?
Here are 10 things you shouldn’t do when your husband leaves you for another woman:
*Don’t threaten to kill him or the other woman. Your words can be used against you in the future if anything happens to either of them.
*Don’t throw your life away for a man who doesn’t care about humiliating you publicly. Focus on making money to take care of yourself and your children.
*Don’t kill yourself over a man who went to satisfy his sexual itch with a woman you are even better than. No matter what happens, you have a bright future ahead of you even if things are bleak right now.
*Don’t leave your children motherless because one man decided to live like a single man. what will you gain if you take your life and leave your children at the mercy of your runaway husband and his side chick?
*Don’t start stalking him and the other woman. Give yourself some peace of mind. You don’t need to engage in unnecessary drama.
*Don’t try to get your own pound of flesh when your husband leaves you for another woman. Don’t go and have sex with his friends just to get back at him. You will hurt yourself.
*Don’t panic about being alone especially when the man doesn’t want to be with you anymore. You deserve so much more in life than forcing an unwilling man to be with you.
*Don’t send people to go and beg him to come back to you. You are just making a fool of yourself. make sure he takes care of his children’s needs and if he refuses to do so, work hard and take care of your children.
*Don’t pretend everything is okay with you. You are an emotional wreck. Talk to trusted people and bare your soul to them. Cry and cry some more. Ask questions but move on with your life.
*Don’t give up on love. Your failed marriage is not worth giving up on love and life. You have your whole life ahead of you. Move on but don’t resign yourself to a lifetime of being single. You can find love again.
