10 things nice women should stop doing
People hail you for being nice. They tell you they have not met a nice person like you before and this makes you feel so good. You are grinning from ear to ear because you are being called a nice woman.
You are happy because people always tell you how nice and accommodating you are. You are basking in their praises of being a nice person but have you thought that maybe you are being too nice and allowing people walk all over you.
Dear woman, there are things you should stop doing because you are too nice.
1. Making excuses for other people
Stop rationalizing bad behavior by others towards you. Don’t make excuses for putting up with poor treatment. Some people will be mean and manipulative by taking advantage of your kindness. Don’t keep giving them chances to exploit your empathy for their own gains.
2. Keeping the peace at all costs
You may be peace-loving but sometimes you need to fight back. Stop avoiding conflict. Choose to assert yourself even if you hate confrontation. If you allow yourself to be walked over on, some people may mistake your niceness for weakness.
3. Not expressing what you really feel
Express, express, and express yourself some more. As long as you are not intentionally harming anyone, say what you really feel. You don’t always have to be polite for fear of rocking the boat. Sometimes you need to speak your mind, irrespective of what someone else thinks of you.
4. Trying to be perfect
Get in touch with your authentic self. Tap into your innermost thoughts and emotions. Stop putting others on a pedestal while you beat yourself up over your own flaws. Accept your weaknesses, and remind yourself that no one can be perfect all the time.
5. Making everyone happy
Stop trying to please everyone. At the end of the day, someone is always going to have a problem with who you are and what you do. You can’t make everyone happy. Stop caring what others think of you, and do the right thing. You can’t please everyone, you are not jollof rice.
6. Succumbing to emotional abuse
Recognize when you are being dominated, betrayed, guilt-tripped or made to feel bad about yourself. Stop letting anyone project their own insecurities onto you. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. End the vicious cycle of victim-perpetrator by stepping out of it.
7. Assuming that the world is a fair place
Stop living in denial and face the reality of the situation. Don’t let your naivety and excessive idealism blind you from seeing the truth. The first step towards freeing yourself is knowing the difference between good and evil, recognizing what is right and wrong.
8. Saying yes when you want to say no
Don’t let anyone make you feel wrong about standing up for yourself. You have a voice, you deserve an opinion, and your sense of self-worth is not dependent on external approval. Stop letting anyone make you feel guilty for turning them down.
9. Putting other’s needs before your own
Your needs are as important as anyone else’s. You are human just like everyone else. There is a limit to the sacrifices and compromises you can make. Don’t lose yourself trying to give other people what they are unable to give themselves.
10. Thinking that you are not enough
You are worthy of all the wonderful things that life has to offer. As long as you strive to become a better person every day, you are good enough. Reclaim your own power, assume responsibility for your mind and body, and take over the driver’s wheel of your own life.
When you stop doing these 10 things, then you can call yourself a nice person because you are being nice to yourself and others.