Any woman who stays in a physically abusive marriage is ready to die. You are living on borrowed time because you don’t know the beating that will dispatch you to your maker immediately .
Dear woman, you can’t fix a man a mad man. You don’t even have to walk away from him, just run. Run away before he kills you. If you die, you die for nothing.
This is the advice from a guy who is tired of reading about the avoidable deaths of women at the hands of their abusive and controlling husbands.
He wrote:
“Don’t get it wrong, there is nothing wrong with marriage but there is everything wrong with us.
There is also everything wrong with staying in an abusive and violent marriage and there is everything wrong in a marriage ending up tragically.
Tragedy is not only when the husband kills the wife or the wife kills the husband, tragedy is also when your children grow up in an abusive environment.
You need to understand that you are not created for marriage but marriage was created for you to enjoy and not to endure. If it’s getting dangerously abusive, run alive.
Physically, men are stronger than women, in muscle strength biceps size,voluntary strength of the elbow flexors and knee extensors.
The truth is any man that engages in a physical fight with a woman for whatever reason is simply out to kill her.
And any woman that stays in a physically abusive marriage is ready to die in that relationship.
Yet again, a wife and a mother of two children has been killed by her husband. No weapon used. She was beaten to death this time.
Our problem is that we are too hypocritical. We never want to accept the truth even when it’s staring us in the face. We will form religiosity, culturallism and spirituality.
You will tell someone else’s daughter to stay in a violent and abusive marriage even when she comes crying with her battered face. You will tell her to stay for the sake of the marriage, which marriage?
The moment the marriage gets abusive, it’s no longer a marriage but a disaster waiting to happen and your home is no longer a marital home but a potential crime scene.
For most women, it’s that ‘fear of the unknown’ that makes them hang on until there is nothing to hang on to again.
The fear of another woman taking over and mistreating her children is another excuse of enduring.
The reality is that you have to be alive first to have your children and give them the motherly care and love you so desire for them.
Marriage is not a financial plan and marriage is not a profession.
It is God that provides and God is sufficient for all of us, whether you are a man or a woman.
Yes every relationship and marriage comes with it’s peculiar issues. Yes issues can be sorted out and fixed but not when the the marriage gets abusive and physical.
That is the one you shouldn’t try fixing.
BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT A MECHANIC and YOU ARE NOT A PSYCHIATRIST
You can’t fix a mad man. Don’t even walk away, RUN AWAY.”
(c)Abubakar Widi-Jalo
Drops mic here. Nothing more to add.
