15 things Nigerian parents should teach the new age girl child
There are 15 things Nigerian parents should teach the new age girl child.
According to a facebook user, Nigerian parents should empower gheir girls with everything they need to navigate the new world perfectly.
Femi Aderibigbe wrote:
THE NEW AGE GIRL CHILD
Dear parents, please teach our young girls how to successfully navigate the new world they will be living in, as they grow into adulthood.
Please, help them understand that they are complete and whole as individuals and should not subscribe to the ridiculous, age long myth that, without a man they are incomplete.
Also tell them that being in a relationship is not equal in any way to being enslaved or losing their personal identity and self worth.
Tell them not to rely on any man or woman for their upkeep. Teach them the dignity in labour and the personal satisfaction that comes from being financially independent.
Tell them that they can be anything they dream about and they should not limit their growth trajectory to suit the insecurities of any man or the dictates of any retrogressive cultural dictates or demands.
Please teach them self defense techniques including martial arts training, defensive driving, weapons training and mental/emotional control, because they may one day have to confront physically stronger guys that may have the intention of doing them harm.
Give them quality education to tertiary institution level, if you can afford it and if you can’t afford it, ensure they learn/acquire vocational skills. Also train them in ethics, integrity, will power and respect for others.
Explain to them that the society, culture and tradition have conspired to place an unfair advantage on the male gender and has enabled a lot of men to have an unjustified superiority complex over the women folk.
Help them to understand that they are in no way inferior to men and differences in genitalia is not a sign of superiority or inferiority. Both sexes are equal in the eyes of God and are designed to complement one another.
Explain to them that a lot of mothers have enabled bad behavior in their male children due to patriarchal cultural and religious beliefs, so she should study signs of poor upbringing before committing to any relationship.
Tell them they are not punching bags and a man has no excuse whatsoever to hit them. They should seek legal redress or simply walk away and never look back if this occurs and persists for any reason.
Please teach them to be kind to others, to love themselves unconditionally, to look after their bodies and guard their hearts from negativity, with all diligence.
Help them understand that sexual harassment or assault of any kind is not their fault, it’s not because of how they were dressed or their body shape, it’s because the idiot responsible has the brain power of something a little lower than an animal.
Encourage them to never see themselves as helpless victims but strong, beautiful individuals, created in God’s image and fit for only the right partner. Train them in legal ways to address any wrong done to them.
Don’t forget to tell them that marriage is not a do or die affair, but a beautiful meeting of like minds, it is better to be a single mum than an abused or dead spouse and that equality in any relationship should never be compromised.
Please tell them also that most evils in marriages stem from the “husband’s house” and “your husband is your lord and master” mentality, which has bred many monsters and destroyed many potentially beautiful relationships.
I’m counting on you to prepare our young girls for a world radically different and a lot more complex than the one we grew up in.
Thank you and God bless!