Being a good girl won’t make you great in life
Dear Nigerian woman, being a good girl won’t make you great in life. You have to understand that you have to be true to yourself first.
This idea of trying so hard to please society and other people will leave you tired, drained and useless to yourself.
In this world, you must not conform. You will get lost in the crowd of conformers heading nowhere.
When people tell me I don’t talk like a woman or like a married woman, I laugh. I talk like a human being full in my own glory.
I don’t need others to tell me who I am because I know who I am, where I am coming from and where I am going.
For me, being true to myself, my passion and goal in life is far better than fitting in to the expectations of people who really don’t matter.
You have to be yourself if you must excel in life. If you water yourself down so that others can like you and accept you, you are just existing.
If all you do is desperately try to fit in so that you won’t offend others, you will lose your power and uniqueness.
If you keep pretending to be a good girl so that the world won’t call you names, you will lose the freedom and joy of being uniquely you.
Being a good girl to everybody won’t make you great. That’s what we have been told and it hasn’t helped us.
This society tells you to play small because you are a woman so you don’t scare men away and you agree. Why are you lying to yourself?
This society tells you to be smart and intelligent but don’t show it too much especially among men so that they don’t feel intimidated by your intelligence. Such hogwash!
This society expects women to talk but not too much especially when it comes to issues affecting women and girls.
You are expected to pretend not to see the injustice meted out to women and girls so that a man can like you and marry you. Loads of crap.
Woman, be yourself. Embrace yourself. Let the world know who you truly are. Take off the masks so that you can breathe and truly live.
Live. Breathe. Be free. If you are a good girl, you will never be great.