The importance of giving your partner some space
In healthy relationships, it is important to give your partner some space.
This may sound like your relationship is struggling or you can’t stand each other anymore, but that’s really not the case.
Enjoying some time alone to do your own thing separate from the routine you and your partner have is a normal part of a healthy relationship.
I laugh when some women say that they don’t give their boyfriends and husbands space to enjoy themselves outside their relationships. These women don’t know that they are actually creating problems for themselves.
You had a life before you met this man and you think that suffocating him with your presence, disturbing him with unending calls and bombarding his phones with constant messages will keep him by your side for life? You are on a long thing.
And men who think that monitoring every movement their girlfriends and wives is the right thing to do are just giving themselves high blood pressure for nothing.
If your woman wants to cheat on you or deceive you, she will do it effortlessly under your nose without you suspecting a thing.
Men and women in relationships need some space. They need time alone to rejuvenate and have fun. If couples learn to give each other space, they will become emotionally close.
While it is important for couples to spend quality time together to strengthen their bond, it is equally important for them to spend time apart to do their own thing and enjoy some alone time. Giving your partner some space is key to a lasting relationship.
Giving your partner space helps you maintain your individuality. Some couples who drop their separate friends and separate interests become grumpy and bored in the long run.
You don’t need to spend time away from the things and people you love just because you are in a relationship. Doing that will create sudden loss of an identity that was very important to you.
There’s no need to lose that identity, whether you are just dating, in a long-term relationship, or married. By spending time apart and keeping up the things you love, you can still be the person you always were.
It is important for both partners to maintain a sense of independence outside of their relationship. By engaging in activities independent of each other, couples are better able to maintain their sense of self and bring diverse experiences to their relationship.
Another reason you must give your partner some space is that you must care for yourself to care for others. You simply cannot be a good caretaker to others, listening to their problems and solving them if you don’t take care of yourself first.
And you need alone time to care for yourself. Take time apart from your partner so you can do things like going to the gym, going for a quiet walk in nature, meditating, having drinks with friends, or just watching a movie you love.
Remember that you fell in love with an individual—a person with his own friends, hobbies, passions, interests, and goals. You fell in love with a man or woman who had a life of his or her own, so you have to let them have their independent life as well.
If you become one of those couples attached at the hips, the individuality of each of you will cease to exist. The person you fell in love with will fade away. You need to give your partner space to continue to be the individual you fell for, as they do with you.
If you are always together, you won’t give yourselves the chance to miss each other. You may even begin to take one another for granted, and not be as loving as you would like to be.
Couples should give each other some space because some emotional growth that can only happen when they are away from their partners. Doing things like travelling alone with friends lets you reconnect to yourself, to reflect, and to grow. You can only do that when you are free of worrying about the happiness and needs of your partner.
Without spending some alone time, you will feel stifled. If you don’t take time apart, and do things like travel separately, hang out with friends and spend some time taking care of yourself, your personal growth may become stifled, and then you will feel it’s your partner’s fault.