Husbands, don’t be bad heads demanding submission

Dear Nigerian husbands, don’t be bad heads and be demanding submission from your wives. That’s deceitful.

Why do men obsessed with headship selectively quote the Bible? Why do they love subjugating their women with Bible verses?

Why do they cunningly run to the Bible when they want to blackmail their women to dance to their wicked tunes? Why don’t these men see their own responsibilities in the same Bible?

You are quick to claim that husbands are the heads but many husbands don’t live up to their responsibilities as heads. They are just good at oppressing their women while holding big Bibles.

And when these headship merchants fail at using the Bible to oppress their women, they conveniently switch to culture and tradition.

That is when they will remember that it is our culture that a woman must do her husband’s bidding without questions but forget that it is not our culture for a woman to be paying rent and the children’s school fees. I don’t understand this confusion.

Bad heads don’t deserve submission

Let me say it now, men and women are equal. Mr. Man, you are not superior to your woman and she’s not inferior to you.

Men who are quick to shout that they are the heads are insecure men who need to play the superiority card just to feel powerful.

A man who truly loves his wife and treats her as his partner doesn’t need to remind her that he is the head. He doesn’t need to reduce her so that he can feel like a man, and the head.

He doesn’t need to stop her from achieving her dreams because he is her head. He encourages her to be better. He protects her from attacks too.

Good heads are the ones who provide for their families. Good heads are the ones who come home from work and cook for their families.

Good heads give their wives good sex too. They don’t mount her for three minutes hump air and shake like electric pole being affected by the wind and snore away.

Good heads are the ones interested in improving the lives of their wives. They are the ones that support their dreams and aspirations and help them achieve them.

They are the ones who support their wives to rise to the top in their chosen fields. They don’t reduce them because they feel threatened by their brilliance.

So when next you want to scream that men and women are not equal because you happen to have a penis and stand while peeing, ask yourself whether you are acting like a head.

Don’t be a bad head and be demanding submission. Who wants to follow an empty head?


I am a woman who is passionate about empowering other women to live their best lives and be free from unhealthy societal expectations. I'm a journalist and a columnist with a reputable media house. I educate, inspire and encourage women to embrace their uniqueness fully. I am a mother to an intelligent girl. I love perfumes.

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