Stop selling the narrative that women have to suffer before they find love
Toke Makinwa said that people should stop selling the narrative that women have to suffer before they find love.
She posted her heartfelt message while reacting to popular American rapper’s post where he was praising a woman for putting up with her man’s irresponsible behaviour.
I agree with what Toke Makinwa said a hundred percent. It is enough. Women are not donkeys who should always suffer to keep irresponsible men on the right track in life.
Here’s her post:
Talk Tuesday! I am deeply tired of this narrative though, this post pissed me off so much.
Why do we like to make women look like huge jokes? Why is this the way to happiness? Why must you sell the “I suffer pass” mentality?
This promotes low self esteem. I know for the most part of my life I believed that for love to be real, it has to hurt.
I believed there has to be pain and real humiliation before you find peace and that mentality is bullshit.
That mentality made me stay in crazy situations and do the most for the wrong reasons. Let’s stop please. This is trash.
Please show me examples of men who stayed with a cheating woman, drug addict, jail bird, publicity with other men etc.
Show me a man who knew what he signed up for and even after she slept with his brothers and friends held her down till she became refined.
If we can’t pick ten men please stop raising your daughters to hold down situations that might eventually break them.
Stop selling the narrative that women have to suffer before they find love. This is ruining lives for real and it should stop.”
Women don’t have to suffer to find love. That is not love, that’s deliberate suffering on the part of women who want to be rewarded with marriage.