I’m in a relationship with a guy who suspects all my moves
A young lady in her twenties told me that she is in a relationship with a guy who is so insecure that he suspects her every move.
She told me that he once punched her cousin because he thought he was her side cock. He threatens to beat her up if she talks for long with a guy.
He claims he loves her and that’s why he’s being possessive. This insecure brother also informed her that when they get married later this year, she will quit her job.
He says he doesn’t want other men looking at his woman’s breasts and backside because she works with them. He also said that a woman shouldn’t be making more money than her man because it makes her unsubmissive.
This lady told me that she became heartbroken when she heard that. She loves her job. In fact, it’s her life’s dream to build a career in that field before she sets up her own business. She was confused and asked for my advice.
I told her to break up with him. She told me that I sounded harsh and that she loves him. She asked me if there is away she can manipulate him to change his mind after marriage.
I stopped responding to her messages because advising her was just pointless. You already know what you want to do with a man who is an agent of darkness that has been sent to destroy your destiny and you still get me involved in your nonsense.
Let me say it again, any man who demands that you give up your dreams is an enemy of progress. You didn’t toil in school for years to end up useless to yourself and your family. It’s a great disservice to your inner being.
No woman should give up her dreams for a relationship. Men don’t give up their dreams for women no matter how much they love them. In fact, if you become a stumbling block on their path, they will discard you without looking back
So, I don’t get why women give up their jobs and dreams because one man dangled marriage before them. If he doesn’t want you to pursue that career you toiled in school for, let him go. If he wants you to give up that business that brings you money, tell him to go far.
An ideal relationship consists of two people on the same mission, supporting each other every step of the way. These two people might have different dreams, but they still encourage and cheer each other on.
If you don’t have someone on the same path as you, or even someone who doesn’t have your back, don’t hesitate to leave that relationship. Don’t claim that you can change him after marriage, you will live a frustrated life.
What you want out of life makes up a large portion of who you are, and you don’t need someone who dismisses or bashes your goals. If he refuses to support you to be better, why do you want to spend rest of your life with him?
It doesn’t make sense at all.