A man’s love is not enough to make a relationship work. I know some of you are probably surprised about this but it is what it is.
Relationships don’t survive on declarations of love alone. You don’t keep telling someone you love while you disrespect and hurt them all the time.
I tell ladies not to get carried away by the declarations of love Nigerian men make. Most of them just want sex and they use love as a front.
In most cases, when they finally have sex with the woman they have been pursuing, they begin to show their true colors. Ladies, watch actions instead of trusting words.
That man’s love is not enough. You also need his respect, appreciation, loyalty, kindness, thoughtfulness and generosity. Without these things, your relationship won’t work.
I know some women will say that if you truly love someone, all these things should come naturally. That’s true. But what if that man doesn’t really love you?
Women love to give so much in relationships that they tend to forget that they have to receive as much as they give. They give their time, resources, affection, care and love to their partners.
Some women make sacrifices for men hoping to be compensated in the future with loyalty or marriage but we know that this doesn’t work out in some cases.
This is why when some relationships end, the women keep saying ‘After all I did for you, after all I gave up for you, after all the have been through with you, you break up with me?’
Some resort to heavy curses, others start destroying things they bought for the guy while some use pregnancy to trap the guy just to make sure he doesn’t leave them for another woman.
Sighs.
Ladies, you need more than a man’s love in relationships. You need his respect. He has to respect you for who you are, what you stand for, your decisions and your opinions.
That man has to appreciate who you are without trying to change you into who he wants you to do. He only needs to help you change your negative behavior.
A man’s love is nothing without kindness. If he treats you like crap, doesn’t care if you got home safely after a date, doesn’t call back after you tell him something you are battling with, use your tongue to count your teeth.
If he doesn’t care about what happens to you but only looks out for himself and meeting his own needs, he doesn’t love you. He’s using you.
If a man is not loyal to you while dating, he won’t be loyal when you finally get married. Don’t claim victory over his many lovers by saying it’s you he married. He will still go after other women while married to you.
If you cannot trust your man to have your back and support you when you need him the most, it will impact your relationship negatively. Any man who chooses outsiders over you is not ready to make your relationship work.
You need a man’s generosity for your relationship to work. Dating a stingy man is hell on earth. Marrying one is a disaster. He will frustrate you with his stinginess.
A man who can’t give his affection, care, money and time to the woman he’s dating is not ready for a serious relationship yet. He doesn’t deserve for you to waste your time on him. Marriage won’t change him, don’t lie to yourself.
Ladies, his love is not enough. You need other qualities to make the relationship work. Don’t forget this.
