Ladies, don’t take a man who disgraces your gender serious

Dear Nigerian ladies, don’t take a man who disgraces your gender serious. Don’t have anything to do with a man who displays his blatant disrespect for women and their bodies serious but some of you won’t hear.

You will be all over these men laughing with them, hailing them, dating them, spending money on them and having sex with them. When they turn about to sting you, you will then be looking for feminists to defend you.

Do you think you are special than the women these men played with and dumped? Are you ladies for real? When will you learn from other women’s mistake and stop thinking your vagina has super powers to transform a misogynist to a good man overnight?

You see a man who slut shames every woman he has dated and you go on his posts to go and laugh as he decimates these women. You hail him when he calls them whores and wide pussies.

You click the like button when he says his ex girlfriend has rashes on her bum or that her vagina is smelling and you think you are okay. You are not okay. You are a foolish person. In fact, you are a capital dunce.

You shouldn’t have anything to do with men who treat women badly and talks about them in such a derogatory manner. You are next in line because such men won’t spare you when the time comes.

Ladies don’t take a man who disgraces your gender serious

I read some posts about a young man whose stock in trade is to manipulate women, con them of their money and slut shame afterwards. He is known for that on Facebook. His name is Hymar David Idibie.

The things I read about him on Ijeoma Chinonyerem’s wall left me speechless. I don’t know women still fall for the games such men play even after learning all these gory details about him.

He got 5,000 euros from one woman abroad. He got another one to include him in her will. He has conned many women yet some are still having relationships with him while chanting ‘God forbid, it is not my portion.’ You ladies play too much.

As a sensible woman, you don’t have to take a man serious if he lives to trash talk and slut shame women. He will do the same thing to you. Stop cheering such men on and having sex with them. It will end in tears.

Ladies, learn and do better to avoid stories that touch the vagina. A man who disgraces your gender doesn’t deserve to be in your life. Be wise.


I am a woman who is passionate about empowering other women to live their best lives and be free from unhealthy societal expectations. I'm a journalist and a columnist with a reputable media house. I educate, inspire and encourage women to embrace their uniqueness fully. I am a mother to an intelligent girl. I love perfumes.

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