10 first date questions Nigerian women shouldn’t be ashamed to ask
For some women, going on a first date with a guy determines if they will see the guy for second, third and fourth dates and if they will have a long term relationship with them.
Sometimes, these women are ashamed of broaching some topics during first dates because they don’t want to appear pushy or difficult. This shouldn’t be the case. Be yourself during the first date and let the guy know what he’s getting into.
In reality, going on a date means you are screening the guy to see if you both are compatible enough to move forward to a serious relationship. You don’t want to waste your time or be deceptive about who you really are.
Here are 10 important questions Nigerian women shouldn’t be ashamed to ask a guy on a first date:
1. Do you live alone?
This is a very important question which can reveal a lot about the person you are meeting for a date for the first time. Make it clear that you are not asking this question with the intention of shaming your date, but to simply to gain an understanding of the situation that you are potentially walking into. Learn to decode the truth from lies by watching your date’s body language.
2. Have you been married before?
Dating a divorcée can be a completely different experience from dating a person who has never been married before. This is not to say that you should write off all divorcées, but it’s a good idea to get a feel for the situation you are about to walk into and decide if you are ready to go the long haul with this person.
3. What are your thoughts on gender roles?
If you are on a date with someone, you may want to gain an understanding of their views on gender roles. You probably don’t want to waste your time on a man who has a rigid and archaic way of thinking. You probably don’t want to end up with a man who believes it is a woman’s duty only to cook, clean, wash and take care of the children.
4. Who are the special people in your life?
Ask your date to talk about their parents, siblings, best friends, grandparents, or even former school mates. One of the ways to see someone’s character is to pay attention to how they talk about other people. This question also shows you which people have had the biggest impact on your date’s life and who has helped shape them into the person they are today.
5. What are your religious belief?
It won’t hurt to find out about a love interest’s religious beliefs early. Some people are able to successfully date and even marry someone of a different religion. For others, it can be a serious deal breaker. If you happen to fall into the latter category, it’s better to know what you are dealing with early. It’s for the best.
6. Does anyone think they are in a relationship with you?
When you agree to go on a date with someone, it is generally assumed that they are single but it will be a good idea to ask your date clearly about their relationship status. That way, you can make a clean break if the answer sounds complicated. For your own good, you should also ask if anyone might be under the impression that they are in a relationship with him.
7. Would you like to be married someday?
Whether you have dreams of married life or you have no desire to marry at all, it’s a good idea to find out where your date stands on the matter. You may be shocked to learn that you and your love interest want very different things out of life.
8. What do you do for a living?
Don’t feel bad for asking your date this question so you won’t enter one chance with a yahoo guy, a fraudster or a kidnapper. It may seem shallow but it is not desirable to date a person who doesn’t have a means of livelihood or one who can’t seem to hold down a job. It’s possible for anyone to fall on hard times but chronic unemployment is something you have to pay close attention to.
9. Do you want children?
The desire to have children or not can be a deal breaker for many relationships. Therefore, it’s a good idea to find out how a love interest feels about children early. While you’re at it, ask if they have any kids you should know about since you don’t want any surprises.
10. What are your political views?
Political incompatibility can cause tension in relationships. While it’s probably not necessary to delve too deeply, it can’t hurt to gain an understanding of your date’s political views. Some people can’t control themselves when it comes to their political views and party affiliations and you don’t want to be a collateral damage.