How do you expect to get what you want if you keep lowering your standards?

Dear woman, how do you expect to get what you want if you keep lowering your standards in relationships?

How do you expect to end up with a man who loves you and treats you with respect if you keep mingling with immature and insecure men?

How do you expect to end up with happily ever after if you keep making excuses for men who don’t know what love means and don’t match your efforts in relationships?

How do you expect to be happy in your relationship if you continue to tolerate lack of love, blatant disrespect, emotional blackmail, psychological abuse, sexual abuse, verbal abuse and physical abuse?

How do you expect to be with a man who will treat you like you deserve if you keep hanging out with men who hate women and see them as objects to be used and discarded?

How do you expect to enjoy the thrill and excitement of love when you are always settling for men who believe they are doing you a favor by dating you and expect you to fight to keep them in your life?

Why do women do these things to themselves and still turn around to cry and play the victim? Stop it!

How do you expect to get what you want if you keep lowering your standards?

Why do women jump into relationships with men who don’t deserve them and who treat them like crap and spend years trying to fix these unwilling guys?

Don’t you have something better to do with your life that you waste time with a disrespectful male and fighting so hard to get his love and attention?

Don’t you have dreams to achieve? Don’t you have goals to accomplish? Don’t you have skills and talents to convert to money? Don’t you have dignity to stay away from undeserving men?

Must you date and marry any man who says hello to you? What is so special about being in a relationship with a man who sees you as inferior and treats you badly? Isn’t this self hate?

How do women find all the patience in the world to deal with men who bring them nothing but pain, stress and disrespect but won’t extend the same graciousness to other women when they offend them?

Nigerian women need to be patient with themselves and find the courage to stay on their own until they find men who knows what it means to love and treat them with respect.

If you want to be desperate, be my guest but know that desperation will lead you down the wrong path. Chill in your peace woman and wait for what you truly want. It will be worth it in the end.

Women, stop lowering your standards because you want to be in a relationship, it will end in premium tears.


I am a woman who is passionate about empowering other women to live their best lives and be free from unhealthy societal expectations. I'm a journalist and a columnist with a reputable media house. I educate, inspire and encourage women to embrace their uniqueness fully. I am a mother to an intelligent girl. I love perfumes.

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