Ladies should know that there are things their men will start doing right before they break up with them. It can be heartbreaking being blindsided by the end of a relationship. You can be so in love you don’t even realize the other person is slowly inching their way out the door. But there are signs.
You should keep in mind that although your partner withdrawing from you could very well mean a break up is imminent, there are other possibilities. Depression, anxiety, stress and a whole host of other problems could be at the root of the sudden personality change. If you’re really worried or unsure, it’s best to just ask them to talk things out with you.
But when you have exhausted all other legit reasons why your man is distant from you and can;t find any, prepare your mind for the worst. He might be planning to call it quits with you. You need to be aware of some signs to look out for so that you won’t be caught off guards when this finally happens.
He will stop making plans with you
You used to hang out constantly, but suddenly your serious boyfriend is finding every excuse not to see you. They might just be trying to put off the break up talk until their ready.
He might slowly start texting other women
You have a feeling he’s been talking with someone else a lot. Maybe there’s a new coworker, or an old ex. And it’s not that he’s cheating, it’s just that some guys have an escape plan of sorts. If this is the case, than he might already know who he’s going to pursue next after the break up. It’s shady, but it’s also a coping mechanism for him post-breakup.
He’s always asking for long talks about the relationship
He constantly needs to address problems he sees in the relationship. Maybe he wants you spending less time with friends, or is upset at your job trajectory. Things that were never an issue before are now major problems for him that you need to work on “as a couple.” And although he makes it seem like you’re a team, all the “problems” seem to be on your end.
He stops confiding in you
You wind up hearing about his promotion from a friend, because you are not the first person he wants to call any more when something major happens.
Everything you do suddenly annoys him
If you don’t remember him always being this grumpy, he’s probably bottling up feelings about breaking up. It’s a confusing time, and he might be lashing out unfairly.
He’s never happy around you
He stops joking around with you. He doesn’t laugh when you try and mess around with him or drop one of your inside jokes. He just seems like he’s just there. Maybe he ignores you and stares at his phone checking emails. Whatever it is, it’s indicative of someone whose already made a big decision, who just hasn’t told you yet.
He picks fights for no reason. Here’s a fun, sick twisted fact about the male brain: if he can start enough arguments, even if no one is at fault, he thinks he can convince the two of you that the relationship has no staying power.
You have stopped having sex
If he never seems interested in sex and he used to be, this could be a sign he’s already interested in someone else. Or he’s just so tuned out at this point that he wants to keep his distance physically as well as emotionally.
He has asked for space
It could just be that he wants more alone time. Some people are certainly like that. Or he’s testing things to see how he feels away from you. It’s sort of like asking for a break, except without freaking the other person out as much.
He tries to dispose you with disrespect
It might start small but when a guy no longer wants to be in your life, he would look for ways to disrespect you so that you would get offended and break up with him.