Having sex for the first time is a big deal for many people. Some believe sex before marriage is wrong, while others see no reason why they would have to wait till their wedding night to enjoy orgasms.
Some feel really strongly about saving their first time sex for someone special, or until they have reached a certain age. Others feel that sex should be saved until after marriage. At the end of the day, choosing to have sex or not remains an individual decision.
But having sex for the first time for some people can be pleasurable, comfortable and fun. For others, first-time sex feels uncomfortable, it could even hurt. A combination of factors may make first time sex pleasurable or painful such as lubrication, position and duration.
Three Nigerian women shared their pleasurable first time sex experience with Feminine World. Enjoy:
Nonye: He had fears about not satisfying me in bed
I was brought up by very strict parents. I dare not talk to a boy or even go close to him. My father would skin me alive. He told me boys are bad. So, when I got into secondary school and my mates were having boyfriends, I didn’t date.
After I left secondary school, I still found it hard to relate with boys but my best friend helped me overcome that fear. She introduced me to a young guy then who had always liked me but I paid him no attention. After dating for over two months, we had sex. I just thought I was dying. He was inexperienced too.
He was a virgin too, but he wasn’t the only frustrated party in the bed, and I was trying to be supportive but he was having fears about not being able to satisfy me in bed. Weeks later, I broke up with my boyfriend. I didn’t tell him why I was leaving him. He couldn’t make me like sex.
Esther: I had orgasm the first time I had sex
I was 19 when I had sex for the first time. After stripping each other bare, we began to have sex the only way we knew how: the way they do it in porn movies, with my back pushed against a wall, my legs wrapped around his waist, and Chris thrusting anxiously into me with awkwardness and making some annoying noises.
I began to bleed just a little at first, and he wanted us to get going but then the blood continued, and it really wasn’t any more blood than I imagine any other girl lost, but at 17, on a bright coloured bed sheet, we both panicked. We stopped having sex to try and clean the sheet, but only made it worse, and then we decided to just let it be and resumed the deed until we had orgasms. I came, which is perhaps what’s most surprising, but we spent the rest of the week having more sex. We didn’t date a whole lot longer because they moved to another state but I enjoyed myself with him.
Mary: We had sex for the first time on our wedding night
It was our wedding night, and despite having done almost everything else while dating from kissing to caressing, we had agreed to save the sex until we were married. It was so funny trying to get into the mood after waiting for so long. Anxiety took over at first. But we later turned it into a play thing as if we were acting a porn movie.
We had sex in the bed and in the bathtub and in the sitting room. It was as if we had been liberated after being in chains for long. I remember being underwhelmed, but knowing we would get better with practice. We both enjoyed it even though she complained of some pains earlier. Our wedding night was just perfect.
