Children are prone to misbehave but parents are there to correct them.
When children misbehave, it is the duty of their parents to lovingly but firmly call them to order.
It is not love when you allow your children to misbehave and get away with it.
It is not love when you don’t instill a sense of responsibility in your children by holding accountable them for their actions.
It is not love when you don’t establish boundaries and consistently and fairly enforce it between your children.
It is not love when you practice favouritism, as doing that breeds resentment, destroys morale and causes acrimony between siblings.
It is not love when you allow your sons to act like entitled spoilt brats, while you raise their sisters to be subservient to the brothers.
It is not love when you damage your children’s self-esteem and confidence by calling them names and letting others abuse them.
It is not love when you don’t counsel/remind/assist/teach/encourage your children.
It is not love when you don’t role model positive behaviours before them.
It is not love when you keep attempting to bribe your child into good behavior.
It’s not love when you don’t teach your children how to be good.
It’s not love when you reward your children for doing what they are supposed to do.
It is not love when you use verbal abuse to shame your children into doing better.
Your children won’t feel motivated to improve their behaviour because of negative comparisons.
They will just feel humiliated and betrayed by their parents. Even when they misbehave, you can correct them without being critical.
Love builds, nurtures, holds you accountable, helps you to become better.
Anything less than that is damaging. Raising your children with unhealthy habits will have repercussions in the future.
Parents should first be parents before they become their friends.
Thank you. I am so guilty of a couple of points there. It’s the time for a change.