Many times, I have heard women say that they stopped wearing makeup because their boyfriends or husbands asked them to do so.
Unfortunately, in Nigeria women are groomed from childhood to do everything to please their men including displeasing themselves.
I have heard many women complain that their men stopped them from doing something they loved doing and were doing before these men met and dated them or married them.
For me, it reeks of insensitivity and disrespect to stop your woman from doing something she loves as long as she’s not hurting you or committing a crime.
I knew a sister growing up who was a hot dresser. She loved shorts, pants and jeans. She was the toast of many eligible bachelors those days. She was beautiful, tall and smart. She was working in the bank then and all was well with her.
Suddenly, she disappeared. We noticed that she moved away. I asked my mom about her one day and she told me that she got married and moved away. We were happy for her. We thought she was living the fairy tale life with her supposed prince charming.
We got the shock of our lives one day when she visited her former neighbours. She was nothing like the young, beautiful, bubbly, power dresser that moved away over a year ago. She had scarf on her head, with a long sleeve shirt that looked like what my grandmother would wear during harmattan in the village and this long skirt that looks like a sack of garri.
I just didn’t understand it. I asked my mom why she was dressed like that and she said her husband stopped her from wearing her former clothes. I asked her why he did that and she said that a wife must obey her husband and do his bidding.
I laughed so much that my mom wondered what she said that was funny. As young as I was then, I knew it was wrong for a man to stop a woman from wearing her favourite clothes and using makeup. He met her like that and if he didn’t like the clothes she wears and her makeup, he had no business dating her or marrying her.
If you don’t like makeup, leave women with makeup alone. You don’t have the right to stop them from wearing makeup because you married them. You are just a control freak.
If you don’t like women who wear trousers, leave them alone. Don’t go and marry one who wears trousers and then command her to stop wearing trousers.
Women, stop allowing men to control everything about your life. You are a human being first before you are his girlfriend or wife.
Your man has no right to stop you from wearing your favourite clothes and makeup.
Stop giving these insecure men opportunities to control your lives and make you miserable.
No man has the right to stop you from doing anything. Nigerian women should stop acting like their lives are nothing without men.
Live your lives far from such control freaks. You are complete in yourself. don’t jump into the arms of a man who thinks it’s right to control what you do and wear. You have a say about your life, stop acting all defenseless.
Put your foot down and refuse to be dominated this way. He saw you that way, dated you that way and married you. Now, he’s telling to stop doing and wearing something you love and you allowed him? No way!
