Clear signs you are dating a manipulative guy

If you have the misfortune of dating a manipulative guy, you are done for. Manipulative guys are bad news. You can never win with them.These guys don’t take responsibility for their actions. They blame their women for the bad things they do.

A manipulative man will play with your emotions to the point of breakdown. He will heartlessly use your emotions to make you agree to his terms. A manipulative man will find out your weaknesses and prey on them. They guilt trip their women into staying with them even when they are psychologically, emotionally and sometimes physically abusing these women.

Guys who threaten to harm or kill themselves whenever their lovers or spouses want to leave them are manipulative boys. They know how to play the game well. These guys are good at emotionally blackmailing women into staying in dysfunctional relationships with them. These men are very selfish and they really don’t care about their partners.

It doesn’t make sense to be in a relationship with a man who doesn’t love and respect you especially one who manipulates you at will. Even if you are a hopeless romantic, you have to love yourself more than you love him and break up with him.

Recently, there was a story that made rounds on social media about a young man who allegedly killed himself because his woman left him. He didn’t care about the pain he would cause his family and friends; he just wanted to deal with his ex girlfriend.

The annoying aspect of this sad story was that this guy kept telling everyone that if he dies, the girl should be held responsible. Even at the point of death, he was still playing his manipulative games. Even after drinking three bottles of sniper and dying, this man was still being manipulative during the last minutes of his life. What an egoistic manipulative boy! It is sad that people refused to see through his action.

Nigerians who refuse to use their brains and the ones who are quick to blame women for the actions men take about their lives are blaming the lady and cursing her out on social media. Even the family of the deceased was threatening the girl.

I really don’t know why people were blaming her. The guy was cheating on her with reckless abandon. He even had sex with one of her friends and she forgave him but decided to move on with her life.

She told him it was over between them and this boy went and killed himself just so that people would blame her for his action. Are people trying to say that a woman doesn’t have the right to leave any relationship whenever she wants to leave?

Is it by force to stay in a relationship with someone who lacks self control and respect for his partner? Why is it that every misfortune that befalls a Nigerian man must somehow be blamed on a woman even though he was the architect of his misfortune?

The unfortunate thing is that most Nigerian men have over bloated, fragile egos and they think they are the only ones who have the right to dump women. This is why when these women shock them by dumping them, they feel less.

Their egos are too fragile to cope with the reality of getting dumped. They don’t know how to handle their feelings when women call it quits that they now resort to suicide just to paint the women in a bad light. Women should be careful about the kind of men they date and marry.

Dear women, here some signs of manipulative guys so that you will save yourself the unnecessary stress before it is too late.

*A manipulative guy always plays the victim. If he misses work, it’s your fault for not waking him up on time. It he trips, it’s your fault for placing the rug there. If he gets drunk, it’s your fault for stressing him out. If he yells, it’s your fault for getting him angry. He refuses to take responsibility for his own actions.

*He guilt trips you into staying with him. Whenever you decide you have had enough of his bullshit and walk toward the door, he suddenly changes his behavior. He gets emotional. He cries. He begs you to stay and makes false promises about changing. He even threatens to harm or kill himself if you ever leave him.

*He makes you look bad in front of friends. He finds a way to turn every single situation around so that you come across as the crazy one. He will say little things beneath his breath or text you insults and when you snap in front of everyone, it will look like you are the one being unreasonable. He acts like the best partner  in the world in public. He will be friendly, loving, hilarious and affectionate. That way, whenever you complain about him to  family and friends, they assume that you are overreacting because they have never seen him in a bad mood.

*He has excuses ready for his wrongdoing. If he cheats on you, it’s because his parents didn’t raise him right. If he comes home late, it’s because his friend wouldn’t let him leave the bar. If he’s engaging in appropriate relationship with another woman, he blames you for pushing him into her arms. If he does anything bad, it’s someone else’s fault, not his. It is never his fault.

*He has the habit of forgetting the bad things he did to you. If you fought the night before, he will wake up with a smile on his face and act like nothing happened. If you catch him in a lie, he will act like he got the story wrong because he was confused. He doesn’t want to deal with the consequences of what he has done so he plays dumb just to get you off his back.

*He acts like you are the abuser. When you finally stand up for yourself, he will act like he cannot believe you are treating him this way after everything he has done to you. When he tells stories to his friends, he makes you the villain. He will twist everything to make himself look good. This is what gas lighting means.

*He refuses to answer your questions.He will either change topics or will find a reason to start questioning you about something else when you start questioning him about his attitude. He won’t answer your question about why another woman was calling him because he will be too busy asking you about the boss he thinks you have been flirting with.

*He accuses you of being too emotional. If you get angry because of something he said, he will act like it was only a joke. If he hurts you, he will act like he never meant for it to happen. He will make it seem like you are psycho for getting upset when you have every right to get upset.

*He withholds details about his whereabouts. He won’t tell you where he’s going or who has been texting him because he knows you won’t like the answer. But technically there was no lying involved since he stayed silent so he feels like he is doing nothing wrong.

*He purposely does things to annoy you. He will do something big enough to disturb your happiness and inconvenience your day. He will also do small things that you will look ridiculous if you complain about it to your friends. He will know exactly the right way to annoy you without getting in trouble.

*He makes you fear for your life. He might hold back from hitting you, but he will shatter dishes and smash your television and throw his fist through doors. He will make you feel unsafe, but when you voice that fear, he will roll his eyes and say, “I’ve never touched you” as if that means he isn’t abusive.