A young man known as Linus Augustine has advised Nigerian parents to focus more on teaching their sons how to be self reliant and responsible instead of raising their daughters strictly while their sons are useless to themselves.
Read his post:
“Dear parents, you have trained the girl child enough. You have inculcated good habits in them enough already. You have groomed them well.
They are focused and are excelling. They have been adequately prepared for marriage. Thank you.
Now can you please turn and face the boys. I don’t know the kind of men you people are raising these days.
Tell your boys they won’t die if they pick their plates and wash them after eating. Tell them they won’t suffer stroke if they sweep and mop the house.
Teach them how to cook too, it won’t reduce their manhood. Tell them they won’t have hypertension if their rooms are kept clean.
Tell them it is not a bad thing for them to wash their clothes. Tell them their skin won’t peel off if they bathe at least twice daily and their teeth won’t fall off if they brush at least twice daily.
Tell them they will still function well in the other room if they wash their boxers once or twice after using them.
Tell them it doesn’t cost a thing to be a honest man. The society needs virtuous men too so let them know it pays to be one.
Tell them it is bad too for a man to be promiscuous. Tell them a man that shouts at his wife or raises his hand on a woman is a weakling and a beast.
Teach them good manners. Stop saying “they are boys, house chores are meant for the girls, he will soon marry” etc.
You think when they marry, their wives will come and do magic in few years? It is not easy to change the habits of a full grown man.
Let your focus not be on the girl child alone. Train the male child too. Don’t let loose ill mannered men into the society to come and trouble innocent responsible women.
Just minding my business.
Just being thoughtful.”
There’s nothing to add to this beautiful post. I hope Nigerian parents read this and stop raising good girls for ill mannered, disrespectful and lazy men.
A word is enough for the wise. You can be focused so much on raising domesticated, strong, resilient, respectful and hardworking girls for boys who were not even raised well.
That’s a great injustice. Parents should fight this imbalance by raising their sons like they raise their daughters and stop unleashing their badly raised sons on other people’s well raised daughters.