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If good men remain silent, bad men will continue to hurt women

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If good men stay silent, bad men will continue to hurt women. Whenever we talk about how men hurt women, some men will start chanting #notallmen.

But what are these supposed good men doing to protect the women and girls around them from bad men?

All over the world, men kill women for silly reasons and justify their evil actions. These men say that they acted out of anger and can’t control their emotions.
It is worse in Nigeria where men do and undo and get away with it. In this country, a man can never do wrong. Women are blamed for the crimes men commit against them. No matter how much women try to defend themselves, it doesn’t work.
Unfortunately, society agrees with men who hurt women and blames their victims for provoking them. Victims of rape, spousal murder and domestic violence are blamed for incurring the wrath of the men who hurt and kill them.
Being a woman in this part of the world is hard. It is heartbreaking how women get raped and killed all the time but people conveniently avoid putting the blame where it truly belongs and blame these women. Reading about the horror and evil committed against women by Nigerian men recently leaves me sad, unsettled and angry.
Beneath all these evil perpetrated against women is the false sense of entitlement men have over women, their feelings, their bodies and their decisions. Men have been conditioned that women were created for their pleasure and when they don’t get that from women, they take it by force.
Men kill women for refusing to reciprocate their feelings and attention. These men feel any woman they profess love to must love them back in return and start having sex with them. They were not taught how to handle rejection from women. This is terrible. Who raised these men?
Men kill women for not responding to their cat calls. This one has played out many times where guys who were ignored by women turn around to rape and kill them just to teach them a lesson not to say no to men. This madness cannot be explained. Why do men feel entitled to women’s attention?
Men kill women for breaking up with them because they can’t stand these women being with other men who will treat them better. Is this not wickedness? No sane woman leaves a good man. If you are a lousy man, you don’t deserve a good woman in your life. If you don’t know how to respect women, you shouldn’t feel entitled to their respect either. Respect is reciprocal.
Men kill women for refusing to put up with their lies, cheating, disrespect and irresponsibility. These men believe that women don’t have the right to call to them to order. They feel entitled to women’s love and loyalty even when they do nothing to earn them. They believe they have the license to behave anyhow and women must stay by their sides all through.
Men kill women when these women are over them and try to move on with their lives. These ones justify their actions by claiming they have spent money on these women and can’t stand them moving on without them. How many women have killed men that duped them or fleeced them of money? How many women have killed men who broke up with them and moved on with their lives? You do the calculation.
If good men stay silent bad men will continue to hurt women
Men kill women for refusing to have sex with them. They claim these women aroused them and since they lack self control, they have no choice but to rape and kill these women. All the time, Nigerian men make excuses for hurting women but they want women to keep quiet about their wicked actions.
When women talk about what they go through at the hands of men everyday, they are accused of hating men and demonizing them. But the hatred men have for women is glaring. We read about it in the news everyday yet women are called men haters. We should stop lying to ourselves. In this society, men hurt and kill women because they weren’t raised well.
A Nigerian man killed his girlfriend for refusing to make him a signatory to her bank account two years ago. Many Nigerian men have killed their wives for different reasons ranging from denying them sex to allegedly cheating on them. Nigerian men have killed women for all manner of reasons. Then they turn around to blame these women for making them to cause them harm.
These men who hurt women and blame these women for their actions are cowards, wimps, insecure beings, selfish and evil humans. They don’t deserve to live among sane human beings. Why can’t Nigerian men tell one another the truth and stop covering up the crimes of other men? When will women feel safe around men in this country?
A man identified as Chris Ndukwe allegedly stabbed his fiancée and mother of his two children, Olamide Omajuwa Alli to death, before committing suicide on Sunday, June 21, 2020, at his resident in Victory Point Estate, Ilasan, Lagos State. 

Chris was 39 while his victim, 25-year-old Olamide was the founder of Pearl Academy Nigeria. They dated on and off for seven years and were said to have fixed their wedding for August, 2020, before the horrific incident. 

It was alleged that Chris stabbed Olamide to death with kitchen knife and thereafter drank some poisonous substance. Two blood stained kitchen knives, two empty bottles of the poison, three empty cans of energy drink and a pair of pliers were recovered from the scene. 

According to some family members, the couple had two boys, aged 7 and 3. Chris lived in Victory Point Estate Ilasan, while Olamide lived in Ogba. The victim visited him alongside her younger sister on Saturday, based on his invitation. Her sister was the first to have noticed that the couple were dead and raised alarm.

In her statement, she said she was woken up by a loud music from their room. It was gathered that Chris tied Olamide up, sealed her mouth, used the pliers to pull her braids before stabbing her multiple times on the head and eyes.Although the real cause of the incident has not been established, there are speculations that it had to do with the paternity of one of their children.

This story left me devastated. Trying to imagine the pain and horror that woman endured before she died made me shiver. But whenever we talk about violence against women, Nigerian men will try to divert attention with ‘men get killed too’ anthem. They try to downplay what women go through.
They start making excuses about the wicked actions their gender perpetrate against women. They will tell you that not all men are rapists, not all men are women beaters, not all men are killers, not all men hurt women but they won’t call these supposed bad men to order.
These supposed good men don’t get angry about how other men hurt women and cause them bodily harm all the time. You won’t hear these few good men condemn violence against women outrightly. You won’t read posts from these men telling the bad men among them to stop hurting women.
How many Nigerian men have been killed since the year began compared to the number of women these vile and heartless creatures have dispatched to their graves without blinking?
How many Nigerian men have been killed for cheating in their wives, impregnating other women and bringing the children home for their wives to care for? How many men have been horribly killed for not reciprocating women’s feelings?
How many Nigerian men have been tortured and killed by women for breaking up with them, refusing them sex and moving on with their lives? How many women go out if their way to hurt and kill men who have offended them? Men need to answer these questions truthfully.
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  2. Ebube says

    very sad.
    (btw mommy, the paragraphs are joined together, you need to edit)

  3. Ebube says

    and you are right

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