Why do Nigerian men love the submission gospel? Why do they focus so much on how women should submit to men in all things without hammering on men loving their wives like that Bible verse they love quoting also instructed?
Why is it that whenever the topic of marriage comes up, the first thing an average Nigerian man will say he’s looking for in a woman is submission? Why do these men love this portion of the Bible so much yet break every other commandments in the Bible?
These men who live and breathe submission and demand it from women as if their lives depend on it don’t have problems with lying, stealing, cheating on their wives with impunity, disrespecting their wives and their family members, yet they cling onto submission as if it is their oxygen.
I will tell you why but first, let’s define submission. The Cambridge English dictionary defines submission as the act of allowing someone or something to have power over you.
It is the act of accepting the power or authority of someone else. It is also the act of giving something for a decision to be made by others, or a document formally given in this way.
This is Nigerian men love submission. They love to insist women submit to them because it gives them the power to control their lives, dressing, decisions, relationships and future. Nigerian men hide under the Bible to abuse women. It is appalling.
Whenever you hear a Nigerian man talk about his wife submitting to his authority, he is talking about her being his dunce, doormat and yes woman. He is talking about a woman who has no voice or opinion of her own. He is talking about a woman he will lord it over using the Bible as his cover.
I don’t pay attention to Nigerian men who are so keen on submission. I see them as abusive and controlling. They conveniently forget the ‘Men, love your wives as Christ loves the church and gave himself for her.’
If you ask Nigerian men if they would die for their wives, they will shout ‘God forbid’ but they want women who will submit their lives, senses, money, future, bodies and relationships to them without asking questions.
These men want to marry women they can treat anyhow while claiming these women are submissive. Nigerian men want women who won’t ask them questions even if they are endangering their lives. They want women who will bow down and worship them. Funny creatures.
When it comes to Nigerian men and relationships, women have to be extremely careful so as not to end up with narcissistic, control freaks who insist on submission without loving wholeheartedly first and showing their love.
How do you know a Nigerian man is serious about you? When he insists on meeting your family and friends and doing things that ordinarily you would have to demand from him first. But at the back of his mind, you appear to be submissive and a weak woman to break. Pathetic.
Marrying a Nigerian man is not for the faint hearted. If you are not an emotionally strong woman, some Nigerian men especially the ones who love submission more than their personal hygiene will destroy your self worth, self esteem, career, future and relationships with friends and family.
Nigerians focus so much on women submitting to men but haven’t asked if these men are worthy to be submitted to. Having a penis doesn’t make a man worthy of submission. Do these men know what it takes to love and treat women right? Do Nigerian men know how keep their marriages like women have been taught for ages? Are Nigerian men worthy to be submitted to?
You can’t be hammering on women submitting to men without teaching men how to work on their marriages too? Are these men taught personal hygiene or they believe submission is them leaving their self care to their wives? Some men won’t even flush the toilet after use because they believe submission means their wives flushing their poos.
To some Nigerian men, submission means a successful career woman who earns three times more than her husband resigning from her job so that her husband who earns 50k will feel like a man. Loads of crap.
Dear Nigerian women, if you love yourselves, stay away from Nigerian men who demand submission without giving and showing love and who are not ready to die for you if need be.
If the man you are dating claims men are polygamous in nature and doesn’t see anything wrong with cheating on you, but is foaming in the mouth all the time about you submitting everything to him in marriage, run for your dear life. He’s bad news.
Nigerian men love submission because it gives them the power to control and destroy women’s lives.