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Stop dictating to people how to spend their money -Toke Makinwa

Toke Makinwa said Nigerians should stop dictating to people how they choose to spend their money. She said this after trolls started attacking actress Lilian Afegbai for buying a Birkin bag.

This is what the media personality said about Nigerians always dictating to people how to spend their money:

“I hope we grow in our minds and learn to stop dictating how people choose to spend their money.


It’s really disturbing like who made you a finance god? If someone wants to blow all “their” cash on whatever they decide to, let them, so long as they not asking you for handouts.

It’s another way of putting people under unnecessary pressure, like how can you say why did she buy that bag when she still pays rent?

There are many guys popping new cars and still paying rent and no one is telling them what they should or should not spend their money on.

Let people breathe, If a bag is what they wants now let them buy it, for some it might be jewelry, cars etc, a grown adult should be financially wise to know to make their own choices.

If they go broke, it’s on them. So long as they are not begging you for money, let people live. Same with pressuring people to settle down, have babies, move out of homes… etc.

Everyone has their own journey and your standard is not the blueprint. Some people achieve at 19, others at 60, it is not a race of who gets there first, first to buy na him buy old model.

I once also saw life from a place of lack and frowned on so many things cos I couldn’t fathom some ideas because I wasn’t earning that much. Today I judge myself first, make that money first before you judge anyone.

People have different priorities, theirs is not wrong, urs is not right. We are all adulting together. Pls don’t use conservative people as yardstick, they might wear a 5 dollars shirt but spend money acquiring planes, vacations, things that you’ll also think is a waste of money.”

Rich people work for their money and spend it on whatever they want. Poor people also work for their money and spend it on what they want. Everyone should spend the money they earn how they want to.

This issue of Nigerians dictating how people, especially women spend their money is irritating. All the time, people troll women online for splurging on themselves.

Women buy human hair, they are trolled. They buy expensive dresses, shoes and bags, they are trolled. They go for vacation, they are called names. They build houses, they are still trolled.

How can Nigerian women live their lives without people dictating to them what they should do and how they should do it? Did women come to this world to please society?

How come men are not being trolled for buying cars, gadgets and wristwatches? How come Nigerian men are not being called names for spending money on the things they love?

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I am a woman who is passionate about empowering other women to live their best lives and be free from unhealthy societal expectations. I'm a journalist and a columnist with a reputable media house. I educate, inspire and encourage women to embrace their uniqueness fully. I am a mother to an intelligent girl. I love perfumes.


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