Nigerian women should learn how to approach relationship and marriage issues from Nigerian men stated a Facebook user.
Isabella Iloka wrote:
“You see eeeh, the way I approach relationship and marriage, I learnt it all from studying the way men approach relationship and marriage.
When it comes to choosing whom to date or whom to marry, they keep sentiments aside and choose with their heads.
They don’t know how to manage when it comes to women they are marrying or the women they want to date seriously.
They don’t believe in hoping things will change after marriage, no.
They might love a woman, date her and all, but when it’s time to marry, they will marry someone else.
They will choose to be with whom they believe will favour them the most, who will respect and give them peace of mind the most.
They don’t mind calling off an engagement of donkey years, simply because their mother does not like the lady (I hate this one sha 😩)or because they caught her cheating or lying or because they feel she won’t be loyal or supportive.
They will break up with a woman if they think that she will be a threat to their peace of mind in the marriage.
You can call it callousness, but I see it as wisdom and high level of self preservation.
I also admire how fast they leave a situation that no longer serves them or a relationship in this case.
If they marry a woman and she changes to become what they don’t want, they quickly move away from her toxicity, instead of going from one group to another, doing hide my ID.
You can never catch a man saying “My fiance is cheating on me and beating me up, but I love her, what should I do?”.
Or catch them saying “My wife is sleeping with my gateman and my younger brother what should I do?”.
You also don’t see men, advising their fellow men to stay in bad marriages or bad relationships, with the excuse that it rains everywhere. No!
A man would rather not marry, than marry someone who will be stressing him out or giving him pain.
So yeah, I love how they approach love and marriage, with level headedness, precision and wisdom.
I wish more women can be learn to approach love, relationship and marriage the same way.
Love and Nepa.”