You got a new job, you didn’t tell your friend. She heard it from other people but you expect her to congratulate you.
You bought a car, you hid it from a particular friend but you told your other friends and then you got angry when she didn’t congratulate you.
You got married but you didn’t tell your friend, she saw pictures of your wedding on Facebook and you are calling her a h.a.t.e.r for not telling you congratulations.
You got an award, you didn’t tell your friend, you told other people and they attended the event but you expect your friend to congratulate you.
You relocated abroad silently, started posting your abroad pictures on Whatsapp but you are angry that your friend didn’t congratulate you and blocked her on Whatsapp.
One thing life has taught me is to lower my expectations from the people in my life and those I meet along the way.
In the past, I get bothered that people don’t reciprocate my actions or match my energy in relationships.
These days, I leave room for plenty disappointments. I love and care for the people in my life but I limit what I expect from them.
I match energy for energy. What you give me is what you will get. I don’t go out of my way to please anyone again.
I don’t keep trying to make a relationship or friendship work. If it’s not working because the other party is not reciprocating my actions, I move.
If you start behaving funny towards me for no reason and I ask you what the matter is and you don’t say anything reasonable, I get you out of my life.
If you feel you have arrived because in your head, you are competing with me and you must show me that you are better than me, I give you space.
If you are the type who knows everybody’s business, talks bad about people who are your friends and you want to come close to me, I will run away from you.
If you are the type who uses people and only go close to people so that you can get something from them, I avoid you.
So, stop going about complaining about what your friends did to you when you don’t know the meaning of friendship.
Stop going about painting your friends bad when you are the bad friend. If your supposed friend is paying you back for what you did to them, why are you whining?
Let’s be guided accordingly. Friendship is not by force. If you cannot love someone genuinely and treat them with respect, stay away from them.
Friendship means a bond between people that connects them and lets them share each other’s feelings and thoughts. Someone is your friend if you feel like you can tell them anything, and [you] love to spend time with them.
If you and your friend have trust, equality, compassion, honesty, and independence, you already have the foundation of a strong and healthy friendship.