“I blamed myself for not making a perfect marriage” – Caroline Hutchings speaks for the first time about her divorce
Ex-Nollywood actress, Caroline Hutchings, formerly known as Caroline Danjuma, has spoken about her divorce from her estranged husband, Musa Danjuma for the first time.
The mother of three while advising people going through a divorce noted that her divorce from Musa Danjuma made her feel like a failure.
According to Caroline Hutchings, she blamed herself for not having a perfect marriage and for the mistakes they both made in their marriage until she embarked on a journey of self discovery, which helped her heal from the hurt and realize that her failed marriage does not define her.
Caroline Hutchings wrote:
“I blamed myself for not making a perfect marriage, I blamed my self for both faults of ours until I started healing then I knew I was not a failure. I prayed to God for assistance most importantly to forgive my self and him.
Rather than hate the outcome of what was, I chose love and peace of mind for what is. We both ain’t perfect and that is what makes us human. I dealt with the hurtful words from friends and strangers, the stigma and constant mockery without knowledge of what truly happened.
God whispered I am with you and that was it. My journey to finding me began and I never looked back. I came, I saw, I conquered, most importantly I have found my lost identity.
Healed, restored, unprovoked, loving and blessed #howcarolynagothergrooveback. thanks to @lanreolusola who spoke through the words in the Bible to help me find my way.
Some of us are better off as friends than lovers. It is ok to see a professional counselor, you ain’t mad you just need clarification. It is ok to fail and rise again. Let God lead you. No hate but love always . Accept your faults, forgive the other and move on in peace.
This is my first time talking about my divorce, not an easy journey. Most times, very painful moments especially if you are a perfectionist and kids are involved. Kill the hate it will only ruin you. If you are wondering how you will pick up financially trust me you will, just stay focused and determined. Love without regrets.”