“I have been married for the past six years without a child but my husband has been very supportive and patient with me because he feels it’s not really the ultimate.
Even though there is no pressure, I am always working hard with him for God to give us a child but things took a different turn last year when my husband had a child with another woman who happens to be my cousin.
It was heartbreaking for me but he has already done it so I forgave him. Now, both of them have tested HIV positive but I am negative and I have decided to divorce him but my pastors and counselors are saying that it will be wickedness on my part and that marriage is for better for worse.
What do you say because I am really scared and I am not willing to live with him anymore even though he is begging me now to stay with him. What would be your advice?”
Your husband is supportive and patient with you for not having a child but he impregnated your cousin of all people. Why is this woman making it sound as if it’s her fault that she and her husband couldn’t have children?
Who is sure that the baby her cousin had is her husband’s child? Why is a supportive and patient partner cheating on his wife with her own cousin? This doesn’t sound right.
The way Nigerian women make excuses for men who treat them badly is appalling. I don’t understand why these women always put men’s needs and well being above theirs.
A man disrespected you, had sex with your family member, and then got her pregnant but you are saying you have forgiven him because the deed is done. Will he forgive you if you do the same thing to have a child?
So, if this man and your cousin didn’t test positive to HIV, you will remain married to him and continue having unprotected sex with him knowing how sexually reckless he is.
The fact that this woman is listening to pastors and counsellors instead of running for dear life is annoying. What happened to self preservation? What happened to moving on and doing something better with her life?
The same pastors and counsellors who didn’t condemn what the man did because he’s a man are telling you what to do and you are listening to them.
And this woman is still asking strangers for advice?