My husband is having an affair, I found out in March. I grieved the relationship on my own, moved on a few months later.
I’m now dating a wonderful guy (we are yet to be intimate though) because we are waiting for evidence to file for divorce and tell his affair partner’s (AP) husband.
Turns out AP’s husband already suspected something was wrong. A week ago, he contacted me and talked to me about the unnecessary closeness between my husband and his wife.
He said he found an email on her phone about STD screening, looked through it, deleted the email and got her reports from the clinic. He thought it was a mistake, so he went ahead and got himself tested. He was in the clear.
That convinced him the results were wrong after all, but he still wanted my reassurance to know nothing inappropriate was happening between his wife and my husband.
I had to break the bad news to him that they were both cheating on us. He was understandably devastated and agreed to cooperate with me by splitting the cost of hiring a private investigator.
The PI agency tracked down my husband to a relatively unknown hotel on wednesday night. They hey saw him coming out of the hotel with his AP and they were being affectionate with each other. At one point they kiss*d each other deeply.
We got what we needed and I’m now serving him divorce papers on Christmas morning (his favorite holiday).
This morning at 4am, I overheard my husband making a reservation at the same hotel for this sunday.
So I know they are still having sex. I know his mistress has an STD, and I know him having sex with her can potentially expose him to the STD. Is it my obligation to tell him? AITA for not letting him know?
To add some context, my husband and I have a 4 year old. His mistress has a baby, which quite possibly isn’t her husband’s. He doubts the paternity because the child looks mixed race. AND, he doesn’t know that I know about his affair.
Edit 2 – I chose Christmas because me and my daughter are spending christmas with my family, and won’t return until 2nd January. Husband was flaky about going, so I might as well serve the papers that morning and get done with it. I’ve already met my attorney.
