TikTok user Evelyn Gonzalez shared a story on how she ghosted a guy who asked her if it was all right for them to split a check on their first date.
In her viral clip, she makes it abundantly clear she would more than likely not ever entertain someone romantically if they weren’t willing to foot the bill for a first date, and her remarks divided TikTok users, but a large number of women on the platform stated that they agreed with Gonzalez’s point of view.
“Men are so funny I swear to God,” she starts in the clip. “So, I went on a date with this guy and when the check came he asked me to split the check with him. To which I responded, ‘yeah sure of course.’ And he was like, ‘you don’t mind?’ And I was like, ‘no of course not. Like why would I mind I don’t care.’
Gonzalez continues that they proceeded to have a great evening and he ended up dropping her off at home. But it seems when he tried texting Gonzalez the next day, she wasn’t interested any longer.
‘”Tell me why the next day he was like, ‘why are you being distant? Why are you ghosting me? Like why are you not texting me back?” she says, rolling her eyes towards the camera and tilting her head. “Sir, like, what baby, I don’t know how to tell you this I’m not gonna be the one to tell you it, but someone needs to tell this man.”
In the comments section, Evelyn Gonzalez wrote, presumably in response to folks who said that there’s nothing wrong with splitting the bill on a first date, that “all [she’s] getting from these comments is that all these men wanna be [her] bestie.”
Depending on which survey one consults, the percentages of men and women who expect a man to cover the bill on a first date vary, but only slightly.
According to Elite Singles, only 2% of men say that they expect women to pay for their share of the tab on a first date, as opposed to 5% of women who said that they would be more than willing to cover their first date bill.
TikTokers in the comments section seemed split down the middle, but a lot of female commenters seemed to agree with Evelyn Gonzalez that if a man wanted to share the tab with them, then they should be instantly friend-zoned as a result.
Others remarked that the issue isn’t whether the man in question was expected to pay, but that it boils down to someone asking you out to dinner. If someone invites you on a date or if you want to get some food, then there’s an implied offer that they’re the ones paying for it.