A Twitter user, Hussy, has narrated how a man stopped talking to her after she revealed that she was the owner of the house she was living in.
According to her, her friend told her then that she shouldn’t have told him that she was the owner of the apartment.
She also mentioned how he thought she was renting the apartment and had suggested she got a cheaper place because according to him, she shouldn’t be spending so much on renting an apartment.
However, after finding out she owns the house, he cut ties with her and advised her to get a room apartment instead.
In her words:
“I never forgot (this was years ago) when this guy found out that I owned the house I lived in, I never heard from him again. My friend said you shouldn’t have told him. I said he advised me to downsize and rent a 1 bedrm apt instead of a house ??♀️”.
Nkem Ndem wrote about this at one time on BellaNaija.com. She said:
Some years back, a guy I was dating had lost his job and came to live with me in my apartment for the period. He lost the job when his rent was due and he could not afford to feed him self for the time either. It was not a big deal to me.
In fact I saw it extra bonding time as we had been managing a long distance relationship- he lived in Port Harcourt while I was in Lagos.
Before long, however, I started to notice weird behaviours from him: he lied about possible jobs to make it look like he had something great coming (in reality he was too depressed …or maybe just too proud to actively search).
He wouldn’t help around the house which was crazy considering I had to leave early for work only come back and see his mess around the house -this dude wouldn’t eat until I came back and cook then dish some for him.
He started to receive a lot of late night calls from “female friends seeking advice from him”. I could tell he was being an insecure little sh#t about not being the economic alpha in the relationship, so I asked to have a talk.
This dude heaped on me a pile of incidents where he concluded I was emasculating him, because he was staying with me.
The funniest instance I think was that I wouldn’t let him, as the man of the house, talk to the generator repair guy, electrician or plumber whenever they came to work, instead I would negotiate the price with them to show that I was running things. Waawu!
And of course at the time, I wasn’t as knowledgeable as I believe I am now, so I actually apologized. I since realized that this behaviour is typical of most men in Nigeria.
