Popular Nigerian singer, Innocent Idibia, widely known as TuFace took to his official Instagram page to dish out relationship advice.
According to TuFace Idibia, some people have mastered the art of hiding their red flags to the point where they can easily get other people’s hearts broken.
TuFace Idibia, however advised his fans never to let relationship red flags make them push love away or make them slip into depression.
TuFace Idibia wrote:
“NA THE SAME 11 SIMILAR WORDS AND ACTIONS WEY THE GENUINE PERSON GO USE WIN YOUR HEART THE PLAYER SEF GO USE.
SOME PEOPLE HAVE MASTERED THE ART OF HIDING RED FLAGS.
SO THEREFORE, NEVER ALLOW IT TO DEPRESS U AND NEVER ALLOW IT TO MAKE U PUSH LOVE AWAY. THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU.”
Red flags are behaviours that give you serious pause (or should give you serious pause)—and that could sometimes indicate a larger pattern.
Red flags are often used in conversations around toxic or abusive relationships. Toxicity can present itself in any close relationship: friends, colleagues, family members, or partners. Red flags can be signs of narcissism, aggression, victimization, or even abusive behavior.
If a partner is pushing physical boundaries, it “might be a sign that this person won’t respect these boundaries over time. We want people to be able to hear ‘no’ and ‘stop’ and take us seriously.”
Gaslighting is emotional manipulation where your partner twists reality, making you doubt your perceptions through denial (“I never said that”) or by blaming you (“You’re too sensitive”). Not only is it abusive, but it’s also very difficult to identify.
“The partner waving this red flag may use the other partner’s vulnerabilities against them, making the gaslit partner believe that they are to blame for whatever the problem is, and making it difficult to know whether they’re actually seeing a red flag or not.”