A lady shut down intruding marriage questions from her step family after she exposed their dirty laundry during Thanksgiving dinner.
She said:
“I’m still getting shit for this from my family so it’s possible I may be a bit of the AH here.
I’m 29F, the players are my mom, step-dad, and four step-siblings (35M, 37M, 40F, 42M) and their families.
I’m the black sheep in that I’m the only one not married with kids, but that’s by my preference. I love living alone, I don’t want kids, and having a partner just isn’t that important to me.
My family has been asking me when I’m going to get a boyfriend and settle down since I was 19 and the answer has always been “ew, never”.
I was going to skip Thanksgiving, but my mom insisted that she wanted everyone home this year if possible, so I went. It was the usual drill, but youngest step-brother and his wife are having another kid so that was the big announcement.
This was fine until around the end of dinner one of the SSILs asks if I’m not anxious to have kids since I’m almost 30 and time is running out. I laughed and said “Nah, I’m good.”
That led to one of the step-brothers saying that every family needs an old maiden aunt and some other comments I didn’t appreciate. I said let’s move on, but my mom said “We’re just worried about you.”
This is where I’m possibly the AH. I know all the family dirt so I said, “Well, I’m the only person at this table that’s not an alcoholic, a cheater, or constantly broke af because I have more kids than I can afford so I’m not the one to worry about.”
And that’s how I brought Thanksgiving to a dead halt and no one said a thing for the rest of dinner, but my texts are radioactive still.
I feel like it was probably riding the line and my mom says this has caused a lot of problems among the siblings, but also they kinda started it.”