A husband was accused of being “insecure” after admitting that he attempted to control his wife’s appearance to appease his own conscience.
Posting to the subreddit “r/AITAH” — an online forum where people can share interpersonal conflicts and receive advice on whether or not they were in the wrong — a 41-year-old man explained that his wife, 38, will often go out with her friends in attire that he doesn’t approve of.
In his Reddit post, he revealed that his wife, who he has been married to for over a decade, will often go out every few weeks with some of her single friends for a girl’s night at different clubs and bars in their area.
“She’s very attractive and outgoing. I’m completely fine with that and I trust her 100%. Her friends will sometimes hook up with guys, which is normal for them.
But her friends have also joked/mentioned how guys will hit on my wife, buy her drinks, etc.,” he wrote.
Hearing how his wife will often get approached by different men when she’s out, he admitted to feeling “uncomfortable” by this and decided to take up the issue with her.
“I told her it makes me uncomfortable to know other guys are hitting on her and maybe that would cut down on how often it might happen. From my perspective, a person’s clothing is also a ‘signal’ to some degree,” he continued.
Of course, his wife was completely floored by his request and told him that he was “overreacting” and she shouldn’t have to change anything about her attire for the sake of his own feelings. “She also got defensive and told me I don’t trust her and she’d never have a problem if roles were reversed.”
“We don’t stop being women because we become mothers and wives. When did going out with our friends and getting dolled up become wrong?” one Reddit user questioned.
Another user added, “She wants to feel included, and pretty. Clothing is not an open invitation to be hit on. It’s about feeling confident and attractive.”