A conflicted father looking for advice and financial retribution turned to Reddit to ask if he was in the wrong for expecting his daughter to pay him back $18,000 in child support.
In his Reddit post, the father explained that the fallout started when his daughter, Aria, “abandoned” him and their family to live with her birth mother, “Sandra,” full-time when she was 15.
“Sandra has always been less ‘strict’ than me,” the dad wrote. “She’s always let Aria do what she wants and has never had any home rules. She also buys Aria everything she wants so she will want to live with her.”
Recounting the events that led to her leaving, he said that after a 5-day school trip out of the country, her father grounded her for not staying in touch as much as he wanted. The punishment caused Aria to miss a popular girl’s birthday party, which affected his daughter deeply as “she’s never had a lot of friends,” according to the father.
At the end of that week, when her mother came back to pick her up, Aria’s father told her “that she didn’t have to come back if she didn’t want to.” Aria took her father’s advice and did not return to her father’s house after that.
Her father believed it was because “she didn’t love us and that she preferred staying with her mother, her parties and her free-of-rules life.”
“Over the years we have communicated through lawyers, because Sandra has 0 intentions on helping me get my daughter back (she finally has her to herself),” the man wrote. However, he added that despite not seeing or talking to his daughter, “they’ve been demanding that I pay for child support, even now that she’s 21 years old.”
However, this didn’t sit well with the father, who felt it was unfair to have to support a child who didn’t want to see him — so he devised a plan that he hoped would recuperate both the money he years as well as his daughter’s favor.
“When Aria turned 18, an adult, I started adding up everything I had to pay in an Excel that I send to Sandra when I update it so she knows what damage she is doing to our daughter,” the father wrote.
After years of estrangement, the man wrote that his now 21-year-old daughter “has been trying to get in touch again.” However, $18,000 stand between them.
“I told her that we can’t fix the emotional part unless we fix the money part first,” he said, explaining that he believed “she needs to prove to me that she doesn’t only care about the money.”
“I expect Aria to pay her debt, but I gave Sandra the option to pay for her to which she refused,” the father wrote. “We are now at 18K.”