If you want a woman, ask her out. Men, if you have not properly asked a woman out, don’t expect her to cooperate with you when you want to arm twist her into saying she’s your girlfriend. It is not every woman you use crowd to blackmail into a relationship.
Brothers who ambush ladies in public to accept they are dating are often scared of rejection. What these guys now do is try to play smart by using people around to get her to not turn down their requests.
It is these kinds of brothers who lift pretty ladies in their cars and all of a sudden remember it is time to make stops and say hello to all their friends in that neighbourhood.
From nowhere you hear him say “Baby, come say hello to my friend” but they haven’t asked these ladies out or said anything about them being in a relationship. And his friends will be hailing him as if he has done the right thing.
These guys who find it hard to ask ladies out properly use ladies to pose, and expect these ladies to automatically become their girlfriends without them asking first. What kind of arrangement is that?
It is also his type who would invite a lady on a date after a first meeting, while she’s laughing heartily at some of his very dry jokes, he goes on one knee, with a ring to ask her to marry him, so that people watching will be clapping and encouraging her to accept.
No woman should waste her time with a man who doesn’t have the courage to ask her out in the first place. Don’t make that mistake. Why would you be laughing when a guy plays such games with you instead of putting him in his place?
A man who is serious about having a relationship with you should be able to tell her about his feelings, spell out his intentions and ask you out properly. You also have the right to either accept or reject his proposal.
You don’t have to try to understand what he is trying to say when he has not concluded anything about the kind of relationship he wants with you. This is to avoid any form of assumptions. Let him put his cards on the table first.
Asking you out properly gives you the right to ask certain questions that require clarifications. It also gives you the room to assess the situation and know if you want to be with him or not.
This is also not to say there are men who genuinely love but don’t have the guts to approach and express themselves due to inferiority complex or because they are shy.
They find it very difficult to approach ladies. They would rather appreciate ladies from a distance and hope these ladies understand that they are into them.
Some will even hang around helping her to do all manner of odd jobs including fetching water, picking and dropping her off at work, consoling her when she’s heartbroken but may never voice out that they want her as a wife or lover.
Some men spend lavishly on women and take them to expensive dinner dates hoping such gestures expresses what they are unable to verbalize.
Ladies should stop allowing guys arm twist into going into relationships with them. If a man doesn’t know how to tell you how he feels about you, leave him alone. Stop allowing guys use people trick you into being his girlfriend.
Men who hide behind crowd to ask women out need to grow up and express themselves maturely to avoid public disgrace and rejection.
