Many men claim they are the head and women must bow to them. Even men who haven’t washed their boxers for weeks are forcing it down the throats of women that men are the heads and are therefore superior to women.
When you are quick to claim that men are superior to women, how come these heads are failing in their responsibilities to their families these days? Since a man is the head, why should his wife be paying rent, paying school fees and taking care of feeding expenses at home?
Are you the kind of head that sits at home all day doing nothing and watching DSTV that was paid for by your wife? Are you the kind of head that gets home first and you wait for your neck to come back home and prepare dinner after spending hours in traffic? Are you a good head?
Are you the kind of head that can’t even take care of yourself whenever your wife travels? Are you the kind of head that will eat food and leave the plates for days because your neck is out of town and maggots will start having a field day in your kitchen? Are you the kind of head that can’t even arrange your clothes and clean the house because you are waiting for your wife to come clean up after you? You are such a dirty head.
Are you the kind of head that cheats on your wife with everything that looks like a woman? If they dress a tuber of yam in women’s clothes, you will chase it and sleep with it too. And you have the nerve to open your mouth to claim you are the head. Why do you think being the head means being authoritative, irresponsible and arrogant?
Are you the kind of head that commands your wife to submit her salary to you every month end because the Bible says that she should submit to you in all things? Didn’t the same Bible say that he who doesn’t work shouldn’t eat and a man who can’t take care of his family is worse than an infidel? Or you headship merchants don’t see that part in your own Bibles?
Why do men obsessed with headship selectively quote the Bible? Why do you love subjugating your women with Bible verses? Why do you cunningly run to the Bible when you want to blackmail your women to dance to your tunes? Why don’t you see your own responsibilities in the same Bible? You are quick to claim that husbands are the heads but don’t live up to their responsibilities as heads.
And when these headship merchants fail at using the Bible to oppress their women, they conveniently switch to culture and tradition. That is when they will remember that it is our culture that a woman must do her husband’s bidding without questions but forget that it is not our culture for a woman to be paying rent and the children’s school fees. I don’t understand this confusion.
Let me say it now, men and women are equal. Mr. Man, you are not superior to your woman and she’s not inferior to you. Men who are quick to shout that they are the heads are insecure men who need to play the superiority card just to feel powerful.
A man who truly loves his wife and treats her as his partner doesn’t need to remind her that he is the head. He doesn’t need to reduce her so that he can feel like a man. He doesn’t need to stop her from achieving her dreams because he believes he’s above her.
Good heads are the ones who provide for their families. Good heads are the ones who come home from work and cook for their families. Good heads give their wives good sex too. They don’t mount her for three minutes hump air and shake like electric pole being affected by the wind and snore away.
Good heads are the ones interested in improving the lives of their wives. They are the ones that support their dreams and aspirations and help them achieve them. They are the ones who support their wives to rise to the top in their chosen fields. They don’t reduce them because they feel threatened by their brilliance.
So when next you want to scream that men and women are not equal because you happen to have a penis and stand while peeing, ask yourself whether you are acting like a head. Don’t be a bad head and be demanding followership.
