Many married women in Nigeria need to start going for HIV tests. This is not the time to be ignorant about your HIV status especially if you are married to a chronic cheat or what we call community penis.
Even if your husband is a saint, behaves like a saint, talks like a saint, provides for you and your children, speaks in tongues while praying and cries while worshipping God, go for HIV tests to avoid stories that touch.
Last week, I read four different stories of women who didn’t know their husbands were HIV positive and these men continued to have unprotected sex with their wives until they infected them too. And these men knew they were HIV positive.
It is sad that some married women want to remain ignorant about the extra marital activities of their philandering husbands without thinking about how the actions of these irresponsible men will hurt them.
It is sad that women have refused to take the bull by the horns and take charge of their sexual well being. I pity women who always say ‘what you don’t know won’t kill you’ whenever the issue of cheating husbands are raised.
What you don’t know will kill you quicker than AIDS because you have refused to take responsibility for your life and health. You ignore the fact that deadly sexually transmitted infections and diseases can kill you. You ignore the fact that HIV doesn’t show on anybody’s face.
I heard the heartbreaking story of a woman who married her husband a virgin at 17. She gave birth to two children and years later, she became very sick.
Husband man knew he was HIV positive and had been treating himself secretly but he refused to tell his loving, trusting and naive wife that there was fire on the mountain.
It was when it became full blown AIDS that he confessed but it was too late for his wife. She died a few months later after cursing him with everything in this world.
That was how this heartless man rendered his children motherless because he couldn’t keep his penis in his pants. He killed his wife and moved on as if nothing happened.
A nurse told me recently that the number of married men who come to the clinic where she works to do HIV tests and the ones who tested positive is alarming.
She stated that the said part was that these men refuse to come back to the hospital with their wives to that these women can get tested too. If you tell them to bring their wives, they just disappear and move to another hospital.
Dear married Nigerian women, stop pleading the blood of Jesus before having unprotected sex with your community penis husbands. It won’t prevent HIV. Go and get tested and start taking responsibility for your lives. Protect yourselves.
Stop leaving your lives at the hands of wicked, heartless and irresponsible men who don’t care about you. Rise up and do something about your health. Take charge of your health. Stop living in ignorance. It kills.
Don’t say I didn’t tell you. Stop leaving your sexual health to chance especially if you know a hundred percent that you are married to a community penis. Protect your life. Stop playing with your life. May your children not mourn over you.
Go for HIV test today and know your status. You don’t know what your husband may be hiding. Be safe. And insist on protection if your husband is a cheat.
Someone made this comment on a facebook post discussing this issue and I agree with her.
“This is one of the reasons I get mad at the women who insult the women who say that cheating is a deal breaker for them.
I am sorry, but I can’t stay married to a cheat.
Marriage is good, but not at the expense of my life and well-being.
Many people make cheating look like no big deal but lives are being ruined.
I frankly have nothing against women who don’t see cheating as a big deal, but they should stop calling those of us who feel differently names.
My mum’s secondary school classmate died of AIDS after being infected by her husband. She was advised to fight for the marriage when it was glaring that the man was cheating, until she got infected with HIV and ended up paying with her life. She did not know she had the virus for years.
I hate cheating without apologies, because a man or woman who can cheat on you is capable of killing you.
I am sorry but that is no marriage.
Is it even by force to marry?
If you cannot be committed to one person, then stay single.”
If you cannot be committed to your spouse, stay single. Don’t kill another person’s child with your irresponsible behaviour or make them pay for your sins. It’s wickedness.
